by Madame Noire

 

You’ve been dating more frequently and a relationship just feels like the next step. But don’t just mindlessly connect the dots. Before you commit, stop to think. 

 

DRUNK AND NOT IN LOVE

It may seem appealing to get really drunk and have wild sex, but the reality is that drunk sex is not always fun. The outcome of drunk sex can be: a flaccid p*nis, vomiting and/or unprotected sex. We may want to leave drunk sex for the movies and songs.

THE MYSTERY MAN

You think you know him, but do you really? Before you commit, ask him the important marriage, commitment and life questions to make sure he’s the one for you.

THE MOVE IN MOVE UP

His place is beautiful and he’s offered you a key. But before you accept, make sure it’s because you love him and not because you want to play house.

It’s really no fun when sex ends too quickly or never gets off the ground to begin with. It becomes awkward when the apologies and excuses start rolling in so in this case, I’d say just move on gracefully and try again next time….if there is a next time

SLEEPING IN THE MIDDLE

“Woman sitting next to sleeping boyfriend”

THE COMFORT CAGE

Comfort can feel like love, but they’re not the same thing.

Ask yourself: is it that you like being with him or that you can’t be without him.

THE CHASE TRAP

When he finally starts calling you back, winning him over can feel like he’s the one.

But do you really like him? Or did you love the chase?

Don’t ask yourself this question and it could be a year before the endorphins wear off and you realize you’re not really in love.

THE MINE FACTOR

Not wanting anyone else to have him isn’t a good enough reason to get — or stay — together.

THE “GREAT CATCH”

He looks good on paper, but does he have what it takes to make you happy?

THE HEARTBREAK HANG UP

Women have been known to date nice guys for years, just to avoid breaking their hearts. but it’s better to hurt him now than divorce him later.

THE PAPER CHASE MISTAKE

If money is the only thing he has going for him, save your time for someone who has more to offer.

THE BABY BAIT

In 2014, getting pregnant doesn’t have to mean getting married. Kids do better with two single happy parents than two married miserable ones.

THE NEXT STEP SLIP IN

You’ve been dating more frequently and a relationship just feels like the next step. But don’t just mindlessly connect the dots. Before you commit, stop to think. Are you dating him just because he wants you or because he’s what you really want.

THE SAFE BET

There’s nothing wrong with him so what’s wrong with going forward? Because you can waste years in luke warm love before you’re frustrated enough to realize you need your fire lit.

THE BEDROOM CHAMP

It takes more than what goes on between the sheets to hold a relationship together.

MR. PARENTALLY APPROVED

We all seek parental approval, but you’ve got to put your happiness first.

MR. DEADLINE

You said you’d fall in love at 30 and he’s who you’re dating now. Remove the deadline and save yourself years of lack of fulfillment.

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