by Richard La Ruina

Never ask if she has a boyfriend. If she does have a boyfriend and love him, she’ll mention it pretty early on in the conversation to hopefully throw you off the scent.

1. Do you want to come back to mine?

This question just oozes chump. You should never ask this if you want her to come back to your place. What you need to say is this…

You: Ok let’s go
Her: Where are we going?
You: To a better place I know

Then just leave and assume she’s coming back to yours. If she asks where you’re going, say “you’ll see”. To be honest, if you’ve done the rapport building thing right and the sexual escalation thing right, she won’t ask any questions… she’ll just follow.

2. ARE YOU FREE ON FRIDAY?

This usually comes in the form of a text message, but some guys do ask girls point blank also (which works better by the way). Having said that, asking when she’s free puts pressure on her, the longer she puts you off, the easier it is to forget you.

So to stop this from happening, you need to make a statement instead. Like “Ok, cool… let’s meet this Friday. What’s better for you, 7 or 8pm?”. This way, you’re assuming she’s agreed and when she gives you a time, it’s rock solid.

3. DO YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND?

Never ask if she has a boyfriend. If she does have a boyfriend and love him, she’ll mention it pretty early on in the conversation to hopefully throw you off the scent. Always just keep escalating and if she doesn’t mention anything, then you’re all good.

4. CAN I GET YOUR NUMBER?

No, no… no! This is just asking for rejection. Yet again, you should be making a statement here. Say something like “Put your number in my phone and I’ll give you a call later to arrange a time and place” OR “Ok, what’s your number I’ll text you later”.

Telling her what to do, will increase your chances of getting the number and the number being real also.

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