by Nomalanga Mhlauli-Moses

I have heard it said over and over again that men need respect the way that women need security.

1. Love him – Many people mistakenly think that love is something that you feel but it is much more than that; it is actually in your words and actions. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses and loving someone means that you treat them with love and kindness though it all.

2. Feed him – We’ve all heard the cliche “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”. Well, it seems that even though modern relationships leave a lot of room for a lot of flexibility in gender roles, a lot of men still appreciate it when their woman puts on an apron and gets busy in the kitchen.

3. Respect him – I have heard it said over and over again that men need respect the way that women need security. Of course women need more than just security and men need more than just respect but respect is certainly one of the most important things that a man needs from a women if he is going to invest in a long term relationship with her.

4. Go above and beyond “in the bedroom” – To say that women should go above and beyond “in the bedroom” is my polite way of translating some of the comments that I saw, but I think we all get the point. Intimacy is certainly a huge part of any romantic relationship but unfortunately, when women juggle work, kids and other aspects of their lives, they tend to “drop the ball” on this very important area.

I’m always interested to hear what men have to say when it comes to relationships and what they desire in marriage. It was great to see so many men respond and be clear about what it takes to keep their attention. Ladies, you may agree or disagree with the above information, but you can’t claim you don’t know what men want. Of course there is more but I would say the above four points are a great place to start!

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