by Corina Dondas

Most people don’t know yet that they don’t need other people’s permission in order for them to be happy. Try to take full responsibility for your own feelings and stop thinking that your unhappiness is someone else’s fault. You can choose to be happy and there is nothing anyone can do about that.

1. THEY DON’T MIND OTHER PEOPLE’S BUSINESS

I believe that one of the most important things happy people never do is precisely the fact that they never mind other people’s business. If you’re tempted to always compare yourself to the people around you, then you should definitely try to stop this negative way of thinking and try to forget about all the things other people do. Listen to your inner voice, mind your own business and don’t be scared to face all kinds of challenges.

2. THEY DON’T HOLD ON TO RESENTMENT

If you want to learn how to be happy or happier then you should definitely think about letting go all those resentments you might still have. Don’t let your past haunt you. Everyone makes mistakes; just learn to forgive and move on! Don’t get stuck in reliving all those unpleasant times over and over again because if you don’t let go of those resentments you might still get hurt. You do know that “Without forgiveness, wounds can never be healed and personal growth can never be achieved.”

3. THEY DON’T RELY ON OTHER PEOPLE FOR THEIR OWN HAPPINESS

Most people don’t know yet that they don’t need other people’s permission in order for them to be happy. Try to take full responsibility for your own feelings and stop thinking that your unhappiness is someone else’s fault. You can choose to be happy and there is nothing anyone can do about that. Even if things are not that perfect right now, remember everything that is still okay and maybe that will make you smile again.

4. THEY DON’T SPEND TIME IN NEGATIVE ENVIRONMENTS

If your major goal in life is to be happy then don’t spend prolonged periods of time in negative environments! You might say that sometimes this is not your choice because if you have a job that puts a lot of pressure on you and you have to spend almost all your time in a not so pleasant work-environment, you can’t just quit, because you might not find another way to support yourself. Well, I’m not telling you to quit, but if you realize that you’re not that comfortable in a certain environment and you don’t have the possibility to leave, then you should try to do something else in order to change that. Every small detail can make a huge difference in the long term.

5. THEY DON’T SEEK REVENGE

You should never seek revenge, no matter how much a certain thing or someone’s action hurt you, because you’ll only hurt yourself and you won’t solve anything. Despite what some people might think revenge isn’t happiness. Of course, maybe it will satisfy you for the moment, but in the long term you won’t be able to enjoy all those beautiful things around you because of all the guilt you might feel. So, try to leave things the way they are and learn to accept them!

6. THEY DON’T AVOID THEIR PROBLEMS

Another very important thing happy people never do is they never avoid their problems, no matter how big or small these are. I know that sometimes it may take you a lot of courage and strength to admit the truth but it’s always better to accept it and to embrace it because this way, by not living in a lie all day long, you won’t be haunted by the truth, thus you will feel happier. So, try to find different solutions to your problems instead of avoiding them.

7. THEY DON’T TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY

If you didn’t know already, happy people never take anything they are told personally. I know that sometimes this may be hard but with a bit of practice and with a lot of patience you will manage to do it too. Just listen very carefully what others want to tell you, whether they are praising or criticizing you. Don’t take things personally! Be happy for getting a feedback regarding your actions.

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