Women… all women find confidence sexy.

Talk about confidence, charisma, well-timed one liners, cute dressings and all, here I take you through 10 ways to develop your inner James Bond for the woman you love… and trust me, I know that these work….

1) Unwavering confidence: Whether it’s in the face of some deep throat betrayal from those he’s working with, or a (usually momentary) ‘no’ from his present female interest, Bond wouldn’t blink easily. Women …all women find confidence sexy. No matter how much you feel a woman loves you, take this to the bank, your stuttering will not reserve you any spot if a confident Bond is your adversary. Put your stuff together and Bond up… you can even let yourself be cocky once in a while… believe it, she loves it!

2) Choose and wear those clothes like Bond: Ever heard ‘cute’ used on a really ruggedly-faced masculine guy? Ever used ‘cute’ or heard ‘sexy’, used for guys you really wouldn’t use them on if you weren’t just tripping for the way they dressed up? Rock fitted clothes. More importantly, work your body well enough to look ‘Bondy’- with or without clothes. Women love it.

3) Can you have it all? Unfortunately for the vast majority of guys, women love guys who seem to have it all! Well, you might not, but be it Porsche or Bentley, Bond has it all, and what’s there not to love? I don’t know the woman you want, but chances are, she’d love to hang around you more if you can drop cash on exotic items in malls or in casinos like Bond.

4) 007 means calm: Have you ever seen James Bond panic? Did you not hear Bond in Skyfall tell his boss that she made the call to ‘take the shot’ too quickly as he would have gotten the job done… rather than ending up at the bottom of the sea?

I remember a husband who narrated a robbery that happened around his home, to me. His wife woke him up in the middle of the night and all he could hear was gunshots. He was scared – maybe even more than his wife that was close to peeing on herself. Reading the situation quickly, he told himself that there was no way in hell, he would let his wife see his fears at that moment and so, he went into full action mode. He double checked the bolts, phoned friends who might have contacts with the police, let them know the situation…and then he started telling his wife how mad he was at the stupid robbery going on. He was talking with such confidence that his wife joined in. He told me that in truth, he was so scared that a knock at the door could have given him a stroke.

Women love men who appear calm… at all times.

5) That bad boy image doesn’t hurt if…: I remember in the University, one guy blocked my path one day to ask me out and when I tried telling him off, he asked, “Do you know who I am?”. I fired back with, “If you like be the VC’s son, I don’t want to know”…and I walked away. Now, if he had the first four, I might have paused… all I heard was a whiny chap trying to act all bad. Shame on him… even his father wouldn’t be pleased. In the real world, bad doesn’t earn you points. Real world means, what are your prospects that I can live with… and on, in the next 10 to 20 years. There’s a big margin between bad and having a bad boy image. Have you read 48 Laws of Power? You might want her but acting all whiny might be your undoing… you’re showing all your cards.

Acting like you have lost interest, acting like there are many girls at your beck and call almost always makes her either the pursuer or get you her attention. The image is different from the being, remember this. And women love it when they feel like you are changing for the better for them. Bond isn’t really bad, is he?

6) Thinking on your feet is great. You’ve heard it before, hear it again, women hate a man who can’t seem to make up his mind. Feel Bond? He thinks on his feet. He improvises and follows through even when he’s in hot pursuit of a villain. Be a swift and decisive lover.

7) Bond has a keen eye for who to trust and who not to. Open minded people quickly evaluate and know who’s trustworthy and who’s not. Bond certainly is and therefore, can tell when a lady is into him. Also, Science agrees: Handsome men are the best at identifying who is attracted to them.

8) The Taller…the better. Taller men seem to have it better even studies prove this. Look at Wiki, the greater reproductive success of taller men is attested to by studies indicating that taller men are more likely to be married and to have more children . A shorter man needs to appear more successful always, if he’s to have much success with women. Honestly, this isn’t something that can be helped but, that is the truth. All Bond characters have been as tough as they have been tall. Women find ‘tall’ authoritative and sexy. Look around you and be the judge. I didn’t make this up.

9) Crack me up… Don’t be a bore sweetheart… don’t crack her skull and don’t crack her tear ducts, make her laugh! Bond characters aren’t exactly known for humour but, they can deliver well-timed one-liners that make us laugh. that would make you memorable to many women. Don’t be a clown as she might laugh you into the friend-zone… remember, moderation is key. Find the middle ground and be exciting to be around.

10) Experience pays. No matter your job potential, your father’s name and your future prospects, live. Let me tell you one simple reason we all love movies… they take us on a journey we can or cannot relate to especially one we would like to personally undertake. We might never have been to Europe or America but for sure, movies give us experience – a feel. Something to talk or think about. Imagine if you have actually lived or you live a life as interesting, imagine if you were Bond? Your words and action will definitely carry the weight of experience. You’d electrify your woman even without a touch. Many guys’ date ideas are limited to eateries and a walk. Think…WWBD? (What Would Bond Do?) Sky diving? Skiing? Blank gun fights? Casinos? Car races?

Whatever, just think outside the box. Learn and live it. Experience is good for your woman too.

What do you think? Sound off on the comment section below!

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Adaobi Okwy blogs at www.adaobiokwy.com and tweets from @adaobiokwy.

 

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