from Effective Attraction

When you all you’re doing is agreeing with her when you first meet her, you put yourself at a disadvantage

When you first meet a woman, your goal should not be to agree with everything she says. Yes, you might build instant rapport with her if you do agree with everything she says, but you will not be building any type of sexual tension or sexual attraction—unless of course you look like a model straight out of GQ magazine.

Let me explain.

When you all you’re doing is agreeing with her when you first meet her, you put yourself at a disadvantage for at least 2 reasons: 1) you’re acting too nice, and 2) you’re just making meaningless small talk.

Let’s look at these disadvantages in more detail:

1) You’re acting too nice
This is the most obvious disadvantage in agreeing with a woman when you first meet her. When you’re too nice, you limit your chances of generating sexual tension. You don’t get to assert your confidence and you don’t get to stand your ground. You may get her to like you from the start…but she’ll like you only as a “friend” or a “nice guy.” This is clearly not how you want a woman to like you.

2) You’re just making meaningless small talk
The second disadvantage in agreeing with a woman is that she won’t remember you. You see, when most men meet women and agree with them about how nice the weather is or how busy work is, it’s not original and it doesn’t stand out. She’ll think that you’re just like every other guy that tries to hit on her. Pretty soon, you find yourself running out of things to “agree” on and the conversation falls apart.

Now, what happens if you take a different approach and disagree with women?

All of the sudden, you don’t seem like a supplicating “nice guy” that’s desperately trying to pick her up. You show her that you’re not afraid of offending her and that you’re a man with balls too big to fit in her mouth. At the same time, you set yourself apart from all the other guys who just agree with her hoping that they will eventually get some from her—but never do.

When you disagree with women when you meet them, you also open up the conversation to really take a life of its own. You don’t find yourself helplessly trying to think of topics to try to win her approval. So, instead of saying “Yeah, the weather sure is great outside,” you can say “No, I don’t think coffee is bad for your health.” This will instantly spice up the conversation.

Now don’t get me wrong—don’t try your hardest to disagree with her on everything and don’t make her so mad that she never wants to talk to you again, but if there really is a point where you should stand your ground, then do it. Don’t change your views or go out of your way to agree with her just to make her like you.

High quality women will appreciate that you’re being a man, and the rest that don’t appreciate it—well those aren’t the types of women you should be concerned about.

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