by Anike Jacobs

Popular singer, Omawumi Megbele, who recently had her court wedding, opened up on her love life, her husband and daughter, Kamillah.

In an interview with Punch Newspaper, she explained why she initially broke up with her baby daddy as against him rejecting her pregnancy back then.

“We wanted to make sure that we were getting married for the right reasons. That is the best way I can explain it. We were in love before we had a child together and we were still seeing each other after I gave birth to my first child. We wanted to be sure that we were truly in love because we really did not have time to get to know each other before I got pregnant. When I got pregnant, he did the manly thing by standing by me and supporting me. We did not want to get married until we were very sure that it was what we wanted. I would have felt bad if we got married because we have a child together and end up hating each other eventually. We had to be sure it would work out and I am very happy that it worked out.”

On why it took her so long to show his face; “Did I even show his face? I did not do it deliberately. It was not something I thought about before doing. Yes, he is a very private person.”

On why she doesn’t post her daughter’s photos on social media; “I believe that when she is ready to start posting pictures online, it should be her choice. The fact that I post pictures of myself is my choice. My daughter is lovely, beautiful, intelligent, and it takes the grace of God for me not to show her off. But I believe she should be the one posting her pictures if she wants to. That is why you do not see her anywhere. Her father also shares that opinion that it should be her choice. If she wants to take pictures or ride on her mother’s name, it has to be her choice. It would not be fair to put her out there whether she wants such or not. It might seem strange but the same goes for her dad. Her father does not like being in the public glare. He loves me so much and has accepted my career. When I observed the way he kept to himself, I had to respect that. He has a choice to either be in the limelight with me or be at the background cheering me and he has made his decision.”

On her rumored affair with the Delta state governor; “Whoever started that must be an idiot. I have answered the question before I got married and I am being asked again. If my husband’s people decided to read your newspaper and see this, do you think they would be happy and feel good to read such about their daughter-in-law? It is not nice for journalists to write on things like this especially when you know that the person is an honourable and decent person, had no affair with the governor and he has always been a father figure to me. Bringing such up in the position that I am right now is callous.”

How she feels when she reads negative stuff written about her in the Newspapers; “Before I got into the industry, I read soft sell magazines a lot and I liked the gossips too. And whenever I read or heard something about an entertainer, I easily believed until I became a victim myself. The first time I read a scandalous article about myself, I wanted to run mad. I did not know who to fight with. I am not the kind of person that hides behind ‘anonymity’ to fight somebody. I am from Warri and we are not wired that way. We would say what is in our mind and if you do not like it, we would fight over the issue. When I got into the industry and it happened to me, I did not know who to fight with. It really hurt me but later on, I spoke to people who had worst things said about them and one of them told me that if I dwelt on what people have said about me, I would kill myself. It is so sad that some people just sit down and concoct lies. I don’t know if it makes them feel good that somebody that they admire and watch on television is miserable due to their lies. Does it mean that we are not also human? It is something that I have been pondering on but pending the time I find an answer, those lies do not bother me. But God would punish whoever starts a rumour about me and I find out who the person is. I will hurt the person; I will make sure that I dedicate a section of my life just to hurt the person.”

On how beautiful the marital journey has been; “It has been wonderfully sweet. I don’t know how people expect it to be but I feel like I have been married for more than two years. We just did the ceremony so that people would not raise eyebrow at my second baby. I have technically been in a relationship that seemed like marriage for more than two years. I am blessed with a good and wise man. He is very caring and sensible. He is somebody that can behave like a baby today and a wise man tomorrow. He is a total package. He is very content and easy going. He does not say much.

My craziness knows its boundaries. It knows where to start and where to end. He loves me the way I am and knows how to manage me very well. I am very homely, I am funny, I am the life of the party most times and whenever I am not around, everybody would be gloomy. I think the question should be how can he do without me and not how does he cope with me.”