by ‘Ifreke Inyang

Today on Twitter, Pastor Tony Rapu, the Senior Pastor of This Present House Church in Lekki, shared some really important tips for married men.

From ‘chasing her again’ to ‘forgoing a football game to go to an event with her’, the articulate man of God dealt with a lot of issues that will surely help couples.

Here’s what his timeline looked like:

 

I will be posting a new series of tweets on #MarriedMen from 3pm today Sunday 13th. Stay tuned.

When you marry, you’ve entered something that was invented by God. #MarriedMen

Tell your wife “thank you” for all the cooking, washing, cleaning and even making the bed. #MarriedMen

Why not take some of the heavy load your wife is carrying off her shoulders. #MarriedMen

If you’re determined to run marriage your own way, you’ll be in trouble because marriage is God’s idea. #MarriedMen

It was not the ‘village elders’ who came up with marriage. It was God. He Himself officiated at the first wedding. #MarriedMen

Once you’re married you’re married. #MarriedMen

Your wife has to take priority above work and business and pleasure. #MarriedMen

Your wife has the power to set the direction of your entire life. #MarriedMen

If your marriage is strong, even with trouble all around you, it won’t matter. You will be able to move out in strength. #MarriedMen

If your marriage is messed up and everything else is great, it won’t matter. You will be moving out in weakness. #MarriedMen

Your wife’s words are so powerful she can actually overturn negative things said about you. #MarriedMen

The love and affirmation of your wife has the power to heal many of your deepest wounds. #MarriedMen

If all in the world say you’re ugly but your wife says you’re beautiful, you’ll feel beautiful. #MarriedMen

Stop complaining about your wife to your mother. #MarriedMen

Conflicts in marriage are inevitable. Resolving them is a part of the process of bonding with your wife.#MarriedMen

Be the man. The #MarriedMan

Talk to your wife. #MarriedMen

Make eye contact with your wife. #MarriedMen

Let your wife talk. #MarriedMen

Sit down and listen to your wife. Just listen. #MarriedMen

Saying “I love you” to your wife is good, but showing it is even better. #MarriedMen

Remember love is not just what you say, it’s what you do. #MarriedMen

To your wife, a kiss actually says more than a 1000 “I love you’s “.#MarriedMen

Stop taking out your frustrations on your wife. #MarriedMen

Stop dumping your work issues and problems on your wife at night. #MarriedMen

Speak to your wife as your equal. #MarriedMen

Please treat your wife with some respect. #MarriedMen

Brag about your wife in public. #MarriedMen

Your wife is not inferior and should not be made to feel so. #MarriedMen

Please leave your parents out of your marriage. She didn’t marry your father. #MarriedMen

Treating your wife as the ‘weaker vessel’ does not mean treating her as an inferior vessel. #MarriedMen

The bible says your prayers will be bouncing back from the ceiling when you don’t treat your wife with respect (1 Peter 3:7) #MarriedMen

If you use all the water in the tank and leave none for her, that’s not love. #MarriedMen

Enjoy life with your wife. #MarriedMen

Sacrifice a football game to go to an event that your wife enjoys. #MarriedMen

Spend a weekend at a hotel with your wife. #MarriedMen

Stop shouting at your wife. She can hear you. #MarriedMen

Be a spiritual leader not a spiritual dominator. #MarriedMen

Submission from your wife is easier when the one she is submitting to loves her enough to sacrifice his life for her. #MarriedMen

To keep bringing up old issues of what your wife did in the past is not loving as Christ loved. #MarriedMen

The man is the head of the house but Christ is the head of the man. #MarriedMen

We’re told to love our wives as Christ loves the Church. He gave Himself. Give yourself to your wife. #MarriedMen

Stop saying” you’re always” or” you never”. It comes out as judgmental and condemning. #MarriedMen

Remember you said “until death do us part”. God doesn’t take that lightly. #MarriedMen

Stop acting like a paramount ruler or village chief. You’re still a husband #MarriedMen

Adultery of the heart is one of the most common problems among #MarriedMen.

You can’t lead your wife anywhere you yourself haven’t been. #MarriedMen

You can’t expect to lead your wife spiritually if you’re not pursuing God yourself. #MarriedMen

Grab your wife’s hand and ask her how you can pray for her. #MarriedMen

Read a book together with your wife. A book in the bible is a good idea. #MarriedMen

Stop flirting with your wife’s girlfriends. #MarriedMen

Find a pet name for your wife. Honey. Sweetheart. Baby. Darling. #MarriedMen

Don’t call your wife mummy. She is not your mum. #MarriedMen

Wash the dishes for your wife sometimes. #MarriedMen

Look into your wife’s eyes. #MarriedMen

Make your wife happy. If she’s happy, you will be happy. #MarriedMen

Greet your wife first before you greet the children. #MarriedMen

Stroke your wife’s hair. #MarriedMen

Leave your mobile phone and bond with your wife. #MarriedMen

Intimacy goes beyond sexuality. #MarriedMen

Your wife is “fearfully and wonderfully made”. Learn some anatomy and even physiology. #MarriedMen

Hold hands with your wife. Rub her shoulders. #MarriedMen

Learn how to agree to disagree with your wife. #MarriedMen

No two people will ever agree on everything. It’s ok. Have guidelines for managing conflict with your wife. #MarriedMen

Stop fighting with your wife over money. #MarriedMen

Don’t resent your wife’s family. #MarriedMen

Respect your wife’s father. He brought her up. #MarriedMen

Your wife wants her feelings to be understood. #MarriedMen

Don’t rush to try and fix your wife’s problems. Listen to her first. #MarriedMen

Consult with your wife before you make those big decisions. #MarriedMen

Discuss with your wife before you make expensive purchases. #MarriedMen

Understand what your wife means when she says, “Don’t touch me at night if you didn’t speak to me during the day”. #MarriedMen

Your wife really wants to connect with you. #MarriedMen

‘Chase’ your wife again. #MarriedMen

Why are you so stressed out? #MarriedMen

Working on your marriage is also the man’s job. #MarriedMen

Don’t be lazy with your love for your wife. #MarriedMen