@Graciemama: How to break up in peace (Y! Superblogger)

by Grace Efezokhae

The craze for Brazilian, Peruvian and Indian hair is still ongoing and every fashion worthy babe tries to have at least one even if it means breaking the bank *just kidding though*. There is this special brand of human hair called Funmi Hair. This particular one is a unique brand on its own. I read an interview in which the CEO of Funmi Hair talked about how she came about the brand. She noted that a lady once came to meet her that her fiancé was on the verge of breaking up the engagement because he discovered she was bald in the middle of her head. That was when Funmi came about the idea of hair extensions which the lady used and according to her the couple are still happily married as at the date of the interview. Hmmm, could a bald head be enough reason for a guy to break up with his fiancée?

All relationships require dedication, commitment and hard work on both parties for a relationship to thrive. However, sometimes LIFE HAPPENS, the centre cannot longer hold and the next preferable option will be to walk away. My issue here is the mannerism in which a break up takes place. I’m still of the school of thought that COMMUNICATION IS KEY. Silence is the worst and most immature way to break up with your le boo.

Based on research, the most common break up lines are:

-“No, it’s not you, it’s me that has an issue…”

-“You are a really great person and you deserve someone better than me. I’ve decided that I cannot date a beautiful woman because I wouldn’t be able to handle the competition”

-“You deserve the best and I can’t give you that…”

Even when you get bored and tired of a relationship, I guess its best you open up to the person and come out straight on the reasons it just can’t work. I don’t advise secluded places o where it’s just the both of you there. If the guy is physically abusive, I wouldn’t advise a face to face break up before you see yourself chilling with your ancestors. I am not an advocate of breaking up over a phone call, bbm chat or text message or an email. There may never be a best way to break up with someone but there are surely better ways of going about it.

If you are tired, just say you are tired and you can’t continue with the relationship. Call a spade a spade and not a big spoon. All these flimsy reasons of saying her facial makeup is too much or saying you just found out that the babe is bald in the middle of her head is crazily hilarious. How crazy can this break up line be, “I don’t think this is working anymore, you love to watch Telemundo and I like MTV Base, we cannot keep fighting over the remote, it’s over”.

Whatever happens guys, shit happens but LIFE JUST HAS TO GO ON. I still believe in having a clean break up with whoever it may be. Don’t beat yourself over the past. I read the story of a woman whose fiancé jilted her by not showing up on the wedding day. The man just sent a break up letter. She kept that letter in her wardrobe and cursed the life out of the man every morning. Will that solve her problem? Certainly not. Cry all you can but garner strength to move on. Unforgiveness could make you an emotional wreck at times and hold you back from the special one that has been destined for you.

WHATEVER YOU DO AND HOWEVER YOU DO IT, ALWAYS REMEMBER THE LAW OF KARMA.

What’s your take on this matter and what better way can one break up in peace based on your personal experience?

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Grace Efezokhae blogs at www.graciemama.com

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