‘Lack of appreciation…’: 4 reasons why women fall out of love

by Sandeep Sharma

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While a woman might not seek validation from external sources, she reserves a special place for her partner. The amount of attention showered on her at the initial stages makes her feel like a princess, but as the novelty fades away, the princess turns into a common household frog with doleful eyes, seeking the same familiarity as before.

1. The Honeymoon is Over

Ask any woman in a relationship and she will tell you with fond remembrance that the initial courtship period was the most exciting period of her relationship. The emotions were new, the sensations were exciting and the world seemed to be coloured in a rainbow palette. A year into the relationship, this so-called honeymoon period expires as couples fall into the familiarity pattern. Women start being taken for granted, and the heat of pursuit stagnates to frigidity, leaving her stifled in the monotony of the relationship.
2. Lack of Appreciation
While a woman might not seek validation from external sources, she reserves a special place for her partner. The amount of attention showered on her at the initial stages makes her feel like a princess, but as the novelty fades away, the princess turns into a common household frog with doleful eyes, seeking the same familiarity as before. Women need to feel the same amount of passion at all times, since their sense of personal security depends on it. When the attention slides, they feel under-appreciated and begin questioning their place in the relationship.
3. Lack of Spontaneity
The reason why every woman compares her ‘nth’ year in a relationship with the first couple of months is because the initial courtship period sets standards so high, that it becomes hard for men to match up to them. The spontaneous longings and desires fizzle out for men, who begin treating the bond as habitual routine. This makes women begrudgingly fall into monotony. While men feel content watching games on the couches, women silently slink around in corners, regretting ever letting the relationship get this far.
4. Emotional Disconnect
While men are easily contented with merely having their partners around, even if they don’t find much time to communicate with them, women feel stifled with lack of communication. It is increasingly important to let your partner know how she makes you feel, for her to feel worthy enough to stay. This lack of communication is one of the major reasons why relationships falter after the initial days of romance are over. Women are fragile, when it comes to love and they only vest their feelings in hopes that their partner will be able to shield them from sorrows. When it is the very shield that gradually dissolves, she is left with no other option but to end the relationship and move on.
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