Writing an article on happiness and my problems cloud my thoughts. It’s good we don’t look like what we go through. In as much as I try to express myself to the next man; there’s just this fear of being judged.  Everyday we are judged by someone. Some people can pen point everything wrong about you, but when it comes to correcting themselves the pen don’t work.

Judgemental people are people who criticize people based on appearance or based on overheard small talks often known as gossips. Everyday we go through constant judgement from the next man.  For every action , there’s a reason. We have no right to judge anybody because we don’t know the reason for the action.  We have been wrong so many times judging others without knowing the true story behind their action. Be kind and courteous in dealing with others, for everyone is fighting a hard battle. Be careful, not everything is about you. Before you assume, there is this thing called “Asking”.

Don’t just jump to conclusions, because that is truly not an exercise. It may cause you more harm at the end of the day. Many of our problems are caused by how we process what happens around us. Don’t judge a situation you’ve never been in. Be humble enough to learn. You don’t know it all. Let’s change the way we feel about ourselves and others. There are two sides of the story. Don’t believe everything you hear. We have people in our lives who unintentionally hurt us. Their words may sound harsh. We may feel judged. And they may question our choices so much that we feel emotionally unsafe around them.

I’d also like you to note that there’s a thin line of difference between ‘Judgement and Perception’.  Judgemental people lack information; but if he/she had information then it wouldn’t be judging, it’ll become an opinion, then a perception. That means forming any kind of opinion is judging.  We all have people in our lives who unintentionally hurt us. Their words may sound harsh. We may question our choices so much that we feel emotionally unsafe around them. Oftentimes, the healthiest choice is to stay away from these people.

But sometimes we have to pay a hefty price for this choice, and it’s worth exploring other options. And even when we can avoid them completely, it can be valuable to have such people in our lives, as they empower us to learn and grow. There’s a big difference between inviting someone to be part of your life and consuming your life. I have learned to have an open and curious mind toward critical behavior. I don’t need to judge or label, but I can still bring a deep sense of curiosity around why people may be behaving or saying such things.  With this sense of curiosity, we’re better able to practice compassion for other people’s attitude.  When people are critical and judgmental, it’s often more about them than us. Still, this gives us an opportunity to learn about ourselves, take good care of ourselves and practice responding wisely.

Osagie enjoys copywriting and content marketing. She has keen interest in writing Fashion and Lifestyle topics.

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