by Mercy Emmanuel
No! There is a psychological power that engulfs one when someone in authority asks them to do something outside their will. This has nothing to do with the water spirits. This is old emotional and psychological blackmail. He leveraged his position as her Pastor to make her succumb to his disgusting and unholy desires.
My attention was brought to the Ese Walter and Pastor Biodun of COZA story during the weekend, while I was skimming through my Twitter timeline looking for someone to “K”.
Somebody posted a tweet that said, “I’m going to church this Sunday, finally”, his tweet was quoted by another who added, “It better not be COZA darling”, and the third person said, “let dem part your legs like the red sea”.
That was it for me! My quest for “K”ing on twitter was over, I had to get to the bottom of the this juicy story.
Needless to say, I did. I got the story and the reactions to the story. I must say, I was very surprised about the reactions more than I was the story.
The uncut and unholy romance between the shepherd and one of the sheep, is no longer news to us. We have seen and heard of them, ranging from the ones that believe they have Holy Semen, which needs to be spread to cleanse the world, to the ones who blame the devil for pushing them into it, as though the vagina was a pit… well, technically. We have heard it all.
Surprisingly, even though Ese Walter was the one who came out with her story as a way of bearing out her burden and her guilt, she is still the one at the butt of all the jokes!
Amazing isn’t it?
Ese Walter has been labeled and with cheesy tags ranging from a “hunger whore” to an “agent of darkness from the marine world” (I had to laugh at this point). Pause.
Release your mind from all bias, and let’s look at this story logically.
As a young Christian looking for the word to fill her up, not a pastor’s hand, She went to this church. She remained a faithful Sunday goer for good 11 months. Her love for the Lord probably grew and her face became too regular in the church that the Senior Pastor, Pastor Biodun, noticed her. He asked her to join a workforce and use her talent for the Lord,(that’s how they usually coin it), and he suggested the Pastoral Care Unit. Very apt name for the Unit, don’t you think?
After a year of serving the Lord, who was the only being she was serving at this time, she was on her way to London for a Masters program that would last for two years. As a good church member following church policy, she informed her pastor of the trip and the pastor in turn, following a particular manual of shepherding, asked her to make sure she sent him her email and her number so that he could follow her up in faith.
This, she made sure he had, how dare she deny her Pastor the right to her whereabouts?
Pause. If you haven’t enjoyed the story so far, its time to stick to the post, because the plot thickens right about now.
Pastor Biodun comes in London, and because he has access to Ese’s number which she willfully gave him, he calls her to come and see him, not at the church, not at the reception of the hotel, not at the park or a restaurant, in his hotel room.
Here a series of important events begin to take place:
1. He asks her to order for a drink, and he wouldn’t mind if she ordered for alcohol.
2. He takes her to the pent house suite, he had reserved.
3. He asks her to sit on his laps.
4. He asks her to kiss him.
5. The ‘ghen ghen’ occurred.
(This was the beginning of several escapades).
At this point, cogent questions begin to rise: why did she go to his room? Why didn’t she shun him and walk out? Did he rape her? Why was she a fool? Why did she consent? Did he ‘jazz’ her?
He didn’t rape her; he didn’t ‘jazz’ her; she went to his room, yes; she consented; yes; but does this make her a whore? No!
There is a psychological power that engulfs one when someone in authority asks them to do something outside their will. This has nothing to do with the water spirits. This is old emotional and psychological blackmail. He leveraged his position as her Pastor to make her succumb to his disgusting and unholy desires. She is not a child, she is a bonafide adult, but this has nothing to do with it. This is a form of abuse!
Many women and young girls are caught and kept in this kind of web, in their churches, homes, places of work, school etc.
This phenomenon is almost the same as the Stockholm Syndrome, if you don’t know what that means, read it up.
He didn’t rape her physically, he raped her mentally. He forcefully used his position as her spiritual head to get what he wanted from her, as their sin lasted.
Ese Walter is not a whore, neither is she an agent of darkness, like most of you are inclined to believe. She is a survivor who was found a way to break free from her captor’s grip by speaking the truth for the whole world to hear.
I am almost certain, that there are very many women who are preys in the hands of the mighty Pastors, doing their biddings and satisfying their lust, and are too afraid or mentally screwed over to speak out.
Did she reveal this truth in a hungry quest for fame? I would like to believe that she did this solely because, the biblical principle has it that “The Truth shall set you free”.
Ese Walter is a brave woman. Is she the Viper? I stand here, in full control of my mental faculties, to tell you that she is most definitely not.
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Mercy Emmanuel tweets from @Mercysuga_Rush
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ok, lets get dis straight Mercy!
they had sex everyday for a week and now she’s the victim? I can understand if she was taken advantage of the first day, what about the other six days? knowing fully well dat d man is married and she took her self there, got undressed and had another romper or did d man threaten her life?
this act was consensual and not that i promote adultery or promiscuity but common all of a sudden after one year now shes overtaken by guilt?
Its shameful for a Man of God to indulge in such activities but everyman has to make his peace with God which i suggest Ese should have done cos if she cant find peace in God, shes never gonna find it on earth.
Now she wants to come out smelling like roses? If it was your husband Mercy, will u still see Ese as a victim?
There are no saints here as we are all striving towards perfection so let the pot not call the kettle black.
Only God knows the truth so let him be the Judge of both of dem.
As for Ese, I wonder how you can find Peace now?
Remember Monica Lewinsky? where is she today? Use your gumption dear in ur future endeavors.
Shalom
As the media and airwaves got filled in the late hours of Thursday to the early hours of Friday , i read and looked through series of comments, abuses, curses, castigation , condemnations and most of all the call and cry for a press briefing as well as disregarding of a pastors ministry and his pulpit. I sank into my black leather couch starring into my 51inch television but obviously not watching the program being aired or should i say i was actually watching what the future really holds for our youths and our faith as Christians and most of all what is the next for Miss. Ese Walter and for every other person in her shoes or with the same mindset and ideology. Because i can see that most or should i be specific and say over 80% of our youths have the same mindset that have always limited them and will continue to limit them. The mindset that says immediately you have erred or failed you shouldn’t stand up again.
I am sure you are wandering where i am heading at or what i am up to, but i am sure if you are not in a hurry and decide to be patient you would be wiser by the time you get to the last words and if by then you still are not wiser then you strongly need to be delivered from the POWER OF DARKNESS (understand that darkness necessarily don’t mean EVIL Spirits or Demons but lack of understanding and enlightenment). At every instance we hear accounts and scandal stories about men of God , the next is an excited crowd ready to condemn, castigate and most times screams of crucify him, crucify him, crucify him….and that only brings memories of the Pharisees and Sadducee who were fast to crucify sinners before and during the era of Jesus Christ our LORD, and when Christ himself says “sinner go and sin no more for I do not condemn you” they get angry and believe proper justice was not taken. Now the question is what is the proper justice????
I chose to pick my enlightenment from the perspective that the allegations about the man of God “Pastor Biodun” are true, at least that’s what most of us are itching to hear, just the same way the hearts and ears of men are always itching to rejoice in evil reports. So i continue let’s accept that Ese and the man of God actually had a relationship after which she confirms it ended after are while (please understand i have not confirmed if the story is true even though i would have loved to meet the man of God and ask him if i knew how and when to get to him. So i as i had said earlier lets accept it was true, i am almost certain the next we will like to hear is that the pastor has come out to accept the story as true and has decided to quit the ministry and step down as a pastor or worst of all go on exile or commit suicide because u believe he is not worthy to preach the gospel of Christ, Like you where the one who called him or gave him the vision. Perhaps i should ask the question
· Was a donkey worthy to deliver a message to Balaam the prophet of God
· Is moses a killer worthy to be used by God to deliver his people
· Is King David a killer and adulterer worthy to be called a man after God’s heart
· Is Abraham the man who followed his wife’s suggestion to sleep with her maid over God’s direction worthy to be called father of Faith and God’s friend
· Is peter the one who denied Jesus Christ 3times worthy to be called father and founder of Christianity
· Is Solomon who was both an adulterer and idolatrous person worthy to be called God’s blessed King
I am still yet to discover one man chosen by God either in the bible or in our time that is perfect, except Christ who had to be perfect for the Art and Act of remission of sin at the cross. And even the perfect Christ was believed and argued to be imperfect and promoter of sin by the so called scholars and wise men like the numerous people and supposed Christians we have today.
I say and will continue to repeat NO ONE IS PERFECT, NO ONE IS PERFECT, NO ONE IS PERFECT, I actually feel like opening your head and sliding it in so you would know that NO ONE IS PERFECT neither is there a perfect church, because if you are perfect then you simply don’t need God’s help. But because we are not perfect does not mean we are not righteous or worthy. And as long as you are righteous or worthy you can be the vessel to carry the vision of God….. hmmm , now i am sure someone’s heard is going hot and perhaps feel like slapping me, well if you have your bible with you then kindly open to Proverbs 24:16 and if you don’t have it then i can tell you what it says “Although a righteous person may FALL SEVEN TIMES, he gets up again, but the wicked will be brought down by calamity”.
Now i am not a pastor but let me explain what that verse means. The person in question was announced to be righteous by God and he wasn’t announced to be righteous by GOD because of his good works nor because he was perfect (for God said let no man say he is perfect except God in heaven), he was actually announced be God because he accepted God (for as many as come to me i will by no means cast out and they shall be called the sons of God), so God made him righteous and the same person is said even if he falls seven times he shall stand again and God still sees him as a righteous man and as such expected to continue his duty, the only advice God gives is sin no more. GOD never says such people should not continue in the duties he has given them. But he says the wicked will be brought down and i know the next question is who is the wicked? But the answer is just right in front of you “The wicked is that person that doesn’t believe in God nor Believes God’s work should continue” God even went ahead to warn in the same bible passage that you should not rejoice or be glad in the fall of your enemy needless of a man of God. But what do we see today??? People ready twit, blog or share the errors of men when the instruction God gave was to go into your room and pray for such people to be stronger in faith and live a better life. What breaks my heart is 90% of those fast to crucify are Christians as well claimed born again believers. No wonder Christ doubted if he will meet faith and love on earth when he comes back, because if you don’t love your fellow brother how do you claim to love God that you don’t see.
The truth is if Pastor Biodun had or decides asked for forgiveness, God would have or will forgive him and it would never be in God’s record that he ever committed such sin (For if you repent i will blot out your sin and i will throw into the sea of forgetfulness), which means if ese by chance goes to meet God and tells god i had sex with Pastor Biodun , HE will say i can’t remember such thing happening (for GOD is not a man that he should lie). So if God has forgiven and forgotten why do we cry for crucifixion? That’s why i say we are not different from the Pharisees and Sadducee that were screaming for the crucifixion of Christ and his followers.
Now to Ese Walter, I sincerely hope you have found peace within yourself now as you stated……… even though i don’t know how you will be at peace every time you see your name or picture on the media attached to sex scandals, perhaps if you want to get married and your fiance’s friends or families bring up the story of the sex scandal, or your children grow older and stumble into an article or book that talks about you and sex scandal that rocked the air waves sometime ago. We all have past but causing uproar with it isn’t the smartest way to show repentance or fight guilt or denial.
Please understand what i have said and not what i did not say, I am not supporting any wrong did neither am i support of sin but all i am saying is you need to learn to allow God direct your every step and decision. I am sure you do not know how many people you have pushed out of the site of God, church or their faith in God and Christianity if truly you have accepted Christ now.
I drop my pen here and i am really not expecting any applause or accolade from anyone one on this message, but i have spoken the truth has i know it, left for you to accept it.
We need some form of evidence. I am not related to both parties. I’m a lawyer also and must work with evidence.
I’m impressed. U are a forward thinking person and u have understanding. I wish such thinking is more common in Naija, we will be better for it.
The response to the story by Ese Walters has left me amazed. Christians would rather not have heard about it much less fathom the idea that it may be true.
Psychologists are not allowed to have relationships with their patients and if it was one of them who did this we would all be happy to hear about it and even ask that his license is withdrawn. Why is this any different?
Mercy, I need to blow u kisses. *winks*
Umm… She is not the butt of all jokes. COZA is the butt of all jokes in this story… so is the Pastor.
I mean, this chic publishes a story without any evidence just word of mouth and all of you believe her totally. Why is it so easy to believe that a pastor will use his “psychological” power to sexual harass a lady?
How do we know she is not telling a lie?
If this happened to a regular celebrity, it won’t be an issue. Everyone will blame the girl and say she is seeking cheap publicity but now it happens to a pastor and all of a sudden the pastor is guilty WITHOUT facts/evidence.
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