Pastor Ken Dakwoji: ‘Singleness’ is not a disease (30 Days, 30 Voices)
Young ladies should sit down in one place of worship instead of running from church to church seeking for godless prophecies
With so many church programs exaggerating the need for singles to get married and making singleness look like a disease or the work of a generational curse, I have discovered that young men and women run into marriage not out of conviction but from a desperate need to escape the label of an under-achiever or a social misfit in society, I can understand the psychological baggage that comes with been single at an age that your environment expects you to be married.
I recently saw a poster of a church program with the title “God is giving 1000 husbands” and can only imagine the mammoth attendance this theme will draw. With the way church leaders stress the need for single ladies who are 24 years old and above to get married it has put a stigma on singlehood.
Marriage is good but that does not make singleness evil, so many ladies rush into wrong relationships out of desperation, see the
divorce rate. Marriage should be encouraged but singleness should not be condemned. You can still be all God wants you to be, whether you are married or single.
God doesn’t hate you for being single, God is not going to abort his plans concerning you because you do not have a mate.
Young ladies should sit down in one place of worship instead of running from church to church seeking for godless prophecies that
force them into parting away with large sums of money all in a bid to satisfy their quest for a partner.
When it is the right time the right man will find you. In all things and at all times be glad. You are God’s masterpiece, be patient and
watch him put every piece of the puzzle into place.
Pastor Ken Dakwoji is a pastor in Lagos and a God seeker. I make known my findings to men that hunger for the TRUTH and not RELIGION.
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