Praise Fowowe: How to court sex scandals

by Praise Fowowe

praise1What is your perception of breasts? I have noticed that nothing puts more men into trouble like female breasts

I often tell leaders that the moment your paradigm changes from a man of honour and it enters your subconscious that you can do certain things and get away or you think it is a secret you are courting sex scandals.

Sometimes it is the girl or man that throws herself at you as a leader but if your perception screen is right you won’t take advantage of her. A woman is a being that must be respected not a hole that must be penetrated at all cost. The moment you begin to feel funny about a protégée or someone who looks up to you, it actually means you need to break away from the relationship but what I often realise is that a lot of leaders would rather try to behave as if they are invincible than admit a weakness.

Your leadership position or anointing doesn’t give immunity against sexual issues and that is why keeping a sound mind is so vital.

There are a few things that can mess up your perception and get you into trouble without your permission. The most dangerous of them all is pornography which messes up your mind and makes you compare your wife to other women and even foster adultery. There is no way you can be hooked on porn and your perception of women and sex won’t be messed up.

Why don’t you take some time out to ask yourself if your perception of sex is still alright or you are on your way down from your closet?  If you don’t see sex as a covenant of life, love and pleasure between the man and the woman in marriage for the purpose of unity, procreation and expression of marital love you will misbehave in no time. In the same way, if you don’t see pornography as the chief enemy to your sanity you will get into ‘collabo’ with it and mess up your future.

“The only man I know who behaves sensibly is my tailor; he takes my measurements anew each time he sees me.  The rest go on with their old measurements and expect me to fit them.”  – George Bernard Shaw

Perception is everything and it is a major factor in determining how well you sustain your success. The challenge with many of us, especially leaders, is our inability to know when to retain or let go of people. People move from mentoring relationship to sexual relationships without knowing at what point the line has been crossed.

Every battle is won or lost in your mind and that is why you need to be on top of your game because perception is your interpretation based on information available to you. And what you must know is that when you spend more time with someone that is not your spouse no matter how much you think you detest the person initially it is only a matter of time before bonding begins to take place especially if the person adores you and you move to a level called RATIONALIZATION where you begin to engage in ‘it doesn’t really matter’ and that could get you into trouble.

What is your perception of masturbation? If you don’t see how it may affect your sex drive in the future and give you a degree in impotence, pre-mature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction then you may learn the lessons too late.

What is your perception of breasts? I have noticed that nothing puts more men into trouble like female breasts forgetting that there is no difference in what she has and what your wife has. My mum taught me that the only difference between your wife and the other woman is the shame that comes with it when you are eventually caught. It is better to drink water from your wife’s fountain than from a public stream. What is your perception of her breasts and what is the worse that will happen if you walk away without touching her?

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