by Chinwe Okafor

This year for comedian Oluwaseyitan Aletile Lawrence, popularly known as Seyi Law has been a rough one, though just beginning.

He recently celebrated his 4th wedding anniversary and in the same year lost his first child shortly after childbirth.

In a new interview with Encomium, he talks about marriage and coping with the sad loss.

On marriage making people responsible: There are people who are married and still live like individuals. So, marriage is not what makes you responsible. However, responsibility is something that you build even before you get married which includes the way you treat others.

That determines how you would treat your spouse and children. The most important thing is to learn to be responsible before you venture into marriage.

On intending married couples: The truth is you never can tell when you are ready for marriage unless you understand you are not perfect and the person you want to be with is not perfect too but when you understand you can make yourself the best person suitable for that person, then you can get married. The most important thing is for you to absolutely make yourself a better person for whoever will come and as you improve on yourself, God will also help the other person to improve. One thing I always tell people is if you learn to communicate with God better as individuals, you will learn to communicate better with each other.

On the loss of his child: It was not a news that came in a day because it was a process. Actually, there was a diagnosis. We got the result and we were hopeful it would change. Up to the time she went for the caesarean section, we were still hopeful but we just want to thank God her life was preserved and God kept her strong ever since.

I would say, she is the strongest woman I have ever known not because she is my wife, but because she was able to recover fast knowing full well I had to do little or nothing to console her which was why I was scared. The fear in me grew because I was scared of consoling her. How would I be able to hold her hands and say everything is okay, how would I look into her eyes and say it will be alright and much more which was what drove me to write on my Instagram page because I needed people to talk to me and let me know how to talk to her. I just want to appreciate Nigerians who sent words of advice, their condolences. God has been awesome with the family.

Ada Igboanugo