Till rape do us part – A case for the criminalisation of marital/spousal rape, by Elnathan John

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  • Emeka

    1 Corinthians 7:2-5
    Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self- control.

    The above passage is an extract from the Bible on marriage. Both parties entering a marriage contract are aware of the expectations, benefits and obligations. Sometimes when the fabric of the marriage is strained, one or both parties may resort to withholding something they believe the other party needs more than them. A lot of the time, the men withhold money, while the women withhold sex. These are merely stereotypes as I have seen the converse in my almost 20 years of marital counselling.

    Having said that, I am not an advocate of violence of any kind. The solution is not to criminalize marital rape as you have called it but to try and resolve the underlying issues plaguing the marriage. I do beleive that this will be a significant overreach into realms that the State does not have the competence or the structures to handle.

    The solution lies with the church and society to develop sturctures to deal with the issues in a timely manner before they mushroom into uncontrolled acts.

  • Oluwatomi

    It is a patent misnomer to believe that women are the only victims of marital rape. You have assumed that it is only men that force women to have sex. My husband denies me sex because he knows that my sex drive is higher than his. I have therefore forced myself on him from time to time.

    i believe that this is my entitlement. I cannot sit there and let these useless Lagos babes be doing my work for me. If my husband thinks that he must consort with them then he must ensure that he has the energy to meet my needs and demands at home.

  • Asmau

    Loving you… On point and civilised

  • Ayo

    Why you go charge person for taking him thing? The man belongs to the woman and vice versa. Sex, or money for that matter, is a horrible thing to withhold in marriage. The marriage contract implies a certain loss of privacy as it implies sharing both your body, emotions and worldly goods. All the marriage vows in all religions allude to this in various forms.

    The glorification of the rights of an individual not to have sex in marriage is an extreme perversion of an anomaly. You also have a right to remain single and this applies to both men and women equally. Once you decide that you want to marry, you lose the right to say, my money or my body.

    That is the gospel truth and opinions such as Elnathans are views from the pits of hell. You should look at God’s original intent for marriage. This also applies to men who refuse to share their money with the spouses. It WRONG. Wetin bad bad, make we no come take plenty new dangled grammar dey spoil marriage. Woman or man Wey marry know say him spouse go need sex so the sooner you brace up to it and learn to enjoy the better – marriage is to be enjoyed and not endured.