True story: “Help, I found a sex tape my husband made with his girlfriend and he beat me black and blue”

by Idoreyin Sampson

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Our editors at YNaija get all kinds of SOS emails but we’ve never published any until now.

We got the message below from a distressed woman and it sure blew our minds. Read it and tell us what you think.

Please I need help!!!

A year ago, after a found a sex tape of my husband and a girl on his phone, he beat me black and blue. This led to my sister sending him a message which read, ‘So because of your womanizing ways, you want to kill the only sister I have. The only reason you haven’t heard from me is because of my mum. That same woman you love to insult.’

My sisters, I was on the hospital bed (where his beating landed me) when he came in, showed me the text message from my sister, forwarded it to my phone and then deleted my sister from his BB. He also said she insulted him, and that she shouldn’t invite him for her events, and he banned her from visiting our home.

To cut a long story short, my sister is about to wed. In fact, she just had her registry wedding. Her traditional wedding is this Saturday and her church wedding is next Saturday.

My husband has ordered me not to go for my sister’s wedding events. I don’t know what to do. I have cried, begged him and he won’t budge. My sister has called him on the matter, he’s still adamant. Even his mum and sister have called him to intercede and still says I shouldn’t go.

I am so embittered right now, because I never thought I would miss my only sister’s wedding. What should I do?

We are lost for words.


  1. It won’t be worth it to lose ur marriage cos of ur sister’s wedding. But I’m sure you know you’re married to a lunatic and not a human being. and that is why you have to tread wiv caution. For now there’s rily nothing you can do. Cos you’ve layed ur bed and you lied on it, by staying on wiv an abusive, unforgiving man. This are the consequences, and it can only get worse. A man who loves you would NEVER make ur life miserable. The ball is in ur court. To call it quits? Or not. If you don’t, mark my words it’ll get worse.

  2. How can you be lost for words?don't you have females for relatives?Does she have to be related to you before that shit she married is given some iron strips on his oversized ego behind?gimme the fools details n humility will set in.Rubbish

  3. This is a BIG joke!
    Sorry, you are married to an insane man without a conscience!
    Sue him for physical abuse, get a divorce and move on with your life. You mightnot be alive to tell more stories about this cruel ape.
    Attend the wedding ofcourse and move on with your life.

  4. My sister, my advice for is to go for you sister’s Wedding and face anything with your head up. That man…. No word for him yet.

  5. Lost for words?? Because you don’t know what to say? Or because she is still married to this pig? She herself must be mad!!

    • My dear, I will advise you to go for your sister’s wedding. ‘Blood is thicker than water’ your family will always be there for you nd not this idiot you call a husband. Believe me this man only wants to turn you into a slave in his to him to change his ways and try to work on the marriage but if all else fails and If the love is no longer there on ur part, then by all means pls leave his sorry behind nd move on. It wil be hard tho…. God bless you nd all the best.

  6. You must be so out of your mind.your husband will not only stop u from attending your sister’s wedding but he will cut short your good life. Men should stop subjecting their wives to domestic violence and women should please keep off from a violent husband..

  7. Abode ni eleyi ni…uu dnt hurt your family bcus of a man not worth it..a cheat, woman beater and uu still ve a reason to ☎ I'm your husband…he is an idiot and a big fool..A real man shld alwaz knw wen to back dwn esp wen uu re advice, he is nt worth It.
    nd dnt miss your sisters happiest day bcus of an animal.

  8. My sista,there is only one life.And I advice you to live it to the full.A man who beats his wife bcos she found out the truth about him?is not w2orth staying he wants to be fooling you,while you are busy being a good wife.He is not even remorseful but is going ahead to stop from attending your sistas wedding.Well,i’m not telling you to become rebellious!but make sure you dont miss your sistas wedding.Its only once in a lifetime,its not just an ordinary visit,the wedding is a one off thing,He cannot say you can attend later,Prepare to attend your sistas wedding and get ready for wateva will come after it.If he continues to abuse you,Babe,take a walk,Its only when you are alife that you can answer somebody’s wife.To be forewarned is to be forearmed.

  9. Are you kidding me? Leave that man..he beat you cos u found hs sex tape? Wow..u r still confused as what to better ball out before he kills better don’t miss ur sister’s wedding

  10. My sister I av a strong believe dat d husband needs some psychological rebranding.dat woman MUST attend her sisters. Wedding. If after attending she is sent packing FINE. Pack out .He wl come back for u IF not pray and move on wt ur life

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