Being cheated on is probably the most devastating thing that can happen to a marriage, short of the other person dying. Actually, it can feel like your partner has died when you find out he (or she) has been cheating. It feels like what you had together died.

Following the cheating scandal that hit media personality and popular vlogger Toke Makinwa, we now offer seven things she should do.

1. She should not worry about it happening again because there’s a decent chance he might. Why? Whatever made him cheat is probably still in his psyche unless he is seriously working on all of his issues.

2.  She should talk to him about the affair. If she has not, then she should! Why did he do it? What was missing from their relationship? What did he gain from cheating if anything?

3. She should take care of herself: Life is too short to let the cheating scandal hit her hard.  Yes, she may have some physical reactions such as nausea, diarrhea, sleep problems (too little or too much), shakiness, difficulty concentrating and not wanting to eat BUT she has to take care of herself. Eat Healthy. Laugh.  Spend time with people who’ll make her happy, because Life goes on in spite of heartache and unfaithful spouse.

4. She should cry: Being betrayed by a man you love so much hurts, hell it does, i know that pain! But shedding the tears is the best to get healed. If they aren’t coming naturally, she should put on some blues type music or watch a sad movie.

5. She should do a VLOG on the cheating scandal, everyone would watch it plus it will help her heal better!

6. She should seek counseling: She should not try to get through coping with the unfaithfulness alone, sometimes talking to counsellor helps.

7. She shouldn’t be afraid to say goodbye. We are not promoting divorce but if she can’t actually trust Maje anymore or if he isn’t bothering to work on their relationship then she should move on. A relationship is based upon mutual respect and if he isn’t willing to give her that, it’s time to hit the road.

Sola