by Eddie Cuffin

There comes a point in every relationship when you get comfortable with your partner; you enjoy his company and don’t see yourself without him. However, you still might find yourself second guessing if you can really trust this guy.

It’s just simple, there are people who are in it for the long haul and then there are people who just want to get theirs and dip. It’s important that you are able to distinguish between these categories especially when you want to know if you can trust the person you are dating.

Some men are trustworthy and some aren’t, you just have to pay attention and see what the person you are dating is really about. Here are the signs that you can’t trust the guy you’re dating.

1. He answers his phone in another room when he’s around you.

While at times we may have personal matters to attend to, there is no reason why the man you’re dating should be afraid to answer his cell phone in your presence. If he constantly gets calls and leaves the room to answer them, this is huge red flag. Be aware of this and know that your man may be hiding something.

2. His texts to you seem generic and he doesn’t use your name.

Everyone loves to text these days, it is the most preferred means of communication between people. When a man is trying to balance many girls, he tends to get generic with his texts. When you notice that your messages don’t seem personal and he begins to replace your name with other more general nicknames like sweetie and baby, you might want to reconsider your trust.

3. He doesn’t have you as a friend on Snapchat.

The way he carries himself on social media is a true sign as to the kind of person he is. His social media patterns are clues to his personality. If the man you’re dating has a Snapchat but doesn’t follow you, there is a reason for that.

4. He’s always working or taking up a new hobby at obscure hours.

If the man you’re dating is constantly picking up new hobbies that run at obscure hours, then you should really consider why you’re dating this person. There is nothing more sketchy than a man who constantly comes and goes at weird hours, claiming he’s working or just enjoying some leisure time doing new hobbies.

5. His friends really don’t know your name.

The people you associate yourself with are a reflection of who you are. If his friends seem to be forgetful of your name every time they meet you, it’s probably a sign he doesn’t talk about you much and that there may be other girls and they can never figure out which one he’s with.

6. He takes a while before responding to your texts.

If he really cares about you, then answering your texts should be enjoyable rather than a hassle. There is no reason you should feel he is not that into you. A clear sign is the time it takes him to answer your texts. If he’s taking hours to answer each one of your texts, it’s because you’re not his priority.

7. He returns clothing to you that isn’t yours.

The only girl that should be leaving clothes at his apartment is you. Finding others girls clothing is a big no no. No matter what, if he returns other girl’s clothing to you, it is a clear sign that he can’t be trusted.

8. His friends act like it’s the first time they’ve met you…every time.

So you’ve met his friends on multiple occasions yet every time you guys see each other they act as if it’s the first time you’ve guys have met.

They always end up reintroducing themselves which only shows that they are confused and have no idea who you are. They probably get introduced to a new girl regularly, which confuses them and causes them to slip up once in a while.

9. He sends you anniversary gifts on a day that isn’t your anniversary.

Women tend to have anniversary dates engraved in their brains and they always love when you remember this day. If the man you’re dating gives you gifts on the wrong anniversary date, then he’s a true scumbag and can’t be trusted. This is almost as bad as calling your girl another name while you’re having sex with her.

10. When he’s seen with other girls, he always says: “It’s not what it looks like”

There is no reason the man you’re dating should be flirting or getting touchy with other girls. This is a huge no-go and it shows that he has no respect for you. If you confront him and he keeps saying, “It’s not what it looks like,” then you should know not to fall for this trap. Keep in mind, it’s exactly what it looks like.

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