by Jennifer Oikle and Steve Nakamoto

Skin-to-skin contact sparks the release of oxytocin, the connection hormone, so it’ll make him instantly feel more focused on you.

1. Before going out, primp until you’ve tapped into your inner Kate Upton. When you’re looking and feeling your best, guys will sense that uberconfidence, which is practically catnip to men.

2. Get him talking about something he loves. When a guy’s talking about something he’s really into, he’ll get amped and subconsciously associate those feel-good vibes with you.

3. Spritz perfume into your hair before going out, then lightly flip your locks when your guy is near. Scent is the sense that’s most closely tied to memory, so he’ll associate that sweetness with you as he thinks about you later.

4. Now, clue him in to one of your passions. Research shows that when you’re talking about something you love, you’ll light up and appear even more attractive to everyone around you.

5. When you’re walking by your guy, arch your back, press your arms to your side, and take long strides. This all-eyes-on-me strut elongates your body, and will command his uninterrupted gaze.

6. Be slightly out of reach—so act flirty towards him, but not like you’re ready to lock it down. You want to make it clear you’re interested while letting him know he’s still got some work to do to snag you.

7. Have an opinion. If he asks what you want to do, suggest that restaurant you love or the movie you’re dying to see, all while maintaining an air of I’m-down-for-whatever. The fact that you know what you like and aren’t making him call all the shots will be a huge turn-on.

8. Graze his arm as you’re talking. Skin-to-skin contact sparks the release of oxytocin, the connection hormone, so it’ll make him instantly feel more focused on you.

9. Strike up a convo with one of his bros. Earning his friends’ stamp of approval proves that you’re a guy’s girl who could weave into his life seamlessly.

10. Speak confidently. When you’re nervous, you probably talk faster and in a higher pitch than you normally would. But maintaining a deliberate, rich tone shows him you’re cool, calm and collected—even if you’re flipping on the inside.

11. Follow up on the important stuff. If he mentions a huge project coming up at work, shoot him a text the day of to wish him good luck. He’ll read you remembering as a sign you actually care what’s going on in his life, which he’ll find aww-worthy.

12. Be busy sometimes. Don’t always text back right away, and make plans to go out with your girlfriends every few Fridays. Seeing how in-demand you are tells him he’s competing with others for a spot in your life…a challenge he’ll gladly take on.

13. Work just sliver of skin into your ensemble—think, a tight, lacy top or a dress with a peek-a-boo cutout. It’ll get his blood pumping, but leaves enough to his imagination that he’ll be dying for a peek at the rest.

14. Give him a compliment about something other than his looks. For example, if he’s really focused on his career, tell him how impressed you are with his drive. He’ll dig that you’re picking up on what’s important to him.

15. When he asks you how your day was, dish on something cool or different that happened. Way more sincere than an “Oh, it was fine” stock response, plus it shows you have your own things going on.

16. When you’re talking eye-to-eye, tilt your face downward while pushing your chin slightly forward. Research shows this angle makes your features seem softer and more feminine, plus it pops your eyes—so you’ll put your hottest face forward.

17. Get him to try something daring, like the spicy new tapas restaurant in town or a zip-lining tour you spotted on Groupon. He’ll see you as the type that’ll push him to try new things…which could translate to any part of your could-be relationship, if you know what we mean.

18. When you’re parting for the evening, catch his gaze and coyly linger there for a few seconds. You’ll give him one last look—a mental image he’ll think about until you’re together again.

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