Whatever the psychosis, a woman who behaves like this is not someone you need to stay with no matter how good she is when she’s happy or in the bedroom. If you’re experiencing any of these relationship landmines, it’s time to cut ties as soon as possible.
Although we like to think of women as gentle and kind beings, there are some that do nothing but breed chaos, misunderstanding and insanity in relationships–especially when things don’t go their way. Whether these behaviors originate from a chemical imbalance or from the environment in which they were raised, one thing is for sure–dating a nutjob can negatively affect all areas of your life; therefore, your goal should be to spot these gals before things get out of control. Here are 8 signs that the woman you’re dating is a psycho.
1. She’s extremely jealous
This type of psycho will go to any length to force unreasonable faithfulness on you because of her fear of losing you. Regardless of your constant assurances that you only care about her, she feels threatened when you discuss your previous relationships, gets angry and even has rages when you talk with female relatives, hates the idea of meeting your female friends and refers to all of them as skanks.
2. She’s controlling your life
Do you have a hard time remembering the last time you had an opinion? Do you recall your last decision? Do you constantly find yourself on the defensive, having to explain all your actions and words? If so, it’s because you’re being completely controlled. This type of psycho is often good at manipulating and intimidating men, making a guy feel he is the one responsible for making her angry or upset.
Controlling women like this believe they know what’s best for their men and will begin selecting the clothes you wear, choosing what movies you’ll watch and deciding what you should or shouldn’t eat. They will tell you when you can go out, when you can invite the guys over to watch the game and will even call you 10-15 times per day to keep track on what you’re doing, who you’re with and where you’re going next with each call. They must be right at all times and will use a great deal of coercion and intimidation to force you into agreeing with them, i.e. shaming you for your thoughts, actions, every time you voice an opinion and will never try to understand your views.
3. She makes paranoid assumptions
If another woman calls you on the phone, even if it’s your boss or a female relative, she loses it, and goes into the grand questioning. Even if your 2 or 3 minutes late getting home, she asks what took you so long, or says “You were suppose to be home 3 minutes ago?”. She gets angry every time you come within 20 feet of another attractive woman and demands: “What are you looking at?” She also blows up at you anytime you mention an attractive female celebrity and she asks, “So would you do her? Huh? Would you do her, you bastard?” If your girlfriend is displaying any of these behaviors, you might be in bigger trouble than you think.
4. She threatens to hurt or kill herself
When a psycho is on to the fact that you aren’t happy and might be looking for a way out, she will take drastic measures will keep you around such as making crazy statements in the middle of arguments, like,“If you leave, I’ll probably kill myself” and other threats of bodily harm. Even if she really wouldn’t kill herself and is just using these threats as a ploy to keep you around, it’s a serious issue that that leaves only one course of action: You have to break up.
5. She gets physical during arguments
Women like this feel it’s perfectly fine to slap, push, throw objects, force or slam doors and even use weapons against their man when he says or does something they don’t like. These women make unrealistic demands of men and feel like they can inflict any kind physical pain on their men without fear of repercussion due to the man’s fear of criminal charges, losing his job, etc…
6. She stalks you
A psycho will do things like call repeatedly or call late at night, leave notes at your home or send unwanted text messages and e-mails. When you just want to hang with your friends or even just be alone, she shows up at the bar, at your work, at the gym and at the bookstore. Check your pockets — she may even be having you tracked.
7. She’s emotionally unstable
With this type of psycho, her emotions are like night and day and you can’t tell the difference between her being happy, mad or sad–even by looking at her facial expressions. One day she’s your best friend, the next she won’t even speak to you. One minute she’ll love you and the next she’ll be picking fights or screaming at you for some imagined transgression on your part. One moment, she is full of laughter and vitality. The next second, she is weeping her eyes out and overcome by misery. Any little bit of change in the day can cause her to react (or overreact) with a tornado of unnecessary emotions.
Women like this have the emotional age of a young child and their emotions ricochet from wild, joyous passion to utmost sorrow. This type of psycho will often exhibit temper tantrums such as getting loud and rude when you’re having a disagreement in public and screaming at the top of her lungs and even approaching you as if she’s going to get physical. She will make you feel like you’re walking on eggshells or can’t communicate with her without suffering her wrath every single time.
8. She needs constant attention
She cannot spend a moment without speaking to you. She’ll send you unwanted text messages and e-mails and will call and page you repeatedly, leaving you voice messages like “I know you’re home, pick up the phone.” You’re out on lunch with co-workers and she happens to bump into you and just when you’re about to go out with your buddies to watch the big game, she’ll suddenly develop a mysterious illness, fall to the ground in a pretend faint so that you have to stay home and take care of her. She will encourage you to not work as much and will even go as far as to encourage you to quit your job so you can spend more time with her.
It’s no secret that women need social interaction, feedback, and validation of their worth in a relationship; however, this type of psycho has low levels of self-esteem and self-confidence and consequently feels insecure. It’s this same insecurity that makes this type of psycho want to constantly be around you so she can reassure herself that you are still there and haven’t dumped her. This behavior is annoying and, in some relationships, can be exhausting.
All of these signs show a lack of self control, which in time can be unsafe to her as well as you. Whatever the psychosis, a woman who behaves like this is not someone you need to stay with no matter how good she is when she’s happy or in the bedroom. If you’re experiencing any of these relationship landmines, it’s time to cut ties as soon as possible.
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