by Aderonke Adebanjo
I began to think about the way to a woman’s heart. How come there isn’t a “the way to a woman’s heart is…” saying? Had you ever thought of that? So I began to ask myself what a guy would have to do to get to my heart.
I had a random thought today. You know they say “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”, yeah? As cliché as it sounds, I actually believe it is true. No matter how out-there, eccentric, or just plain “cool” (however you define that) a guy is, a big part of him wants a woman who can cook – for him. And I actually think it goes beyond the act of cooking. I believe it’s more of the nurturing attitude behind the cooking that attracts guys.
But that wasn’t the entirety of my thought. I began to think about the way to a woman’s heart. How come there isn’t a “the way to a woman’s heart is…” saying? Had you ever thought of that? So I began to ask myself what a guy would have to do to get to my heart. It seems like with women, it’s a little more complicated and not as straightforward as with the guys. For me, I’m super particular about the little things a guy does cos you know “actions speak louder than words”. I started to wonder if it was the same for other women but I highly doubt it. I believe the way to a woman’s heart varies from woman to woman.
This is probably why a guy might feel like even though he’s doing what he thinks is the right thing to do to “win” her over, it’s not working. The reason is what works for one woman might not even move another. So sorry guys, I ain’t got no formula to share. I really wish I could say to the guys that here’s the one thing you need to do to get to a woman’s heart but I can’t. And I think that’s probably what makes “the chase” a little more exciting. If a guy wants to get to a girl’s heart, he’s going to have to figure out what warms her heart and makes it smile. He’s gonna have to pay very close attention. In some cases, and this is very important, he’s going to have to throw out all he thought he knew about women to “win” this woman. Oh, and note I said what makes her heart smile. Selah J
This isn’t to say that the only thing guys look for is a nurturing woman but I’d like to believe (and I think someone said something similar to me recently) that if a guy has to pick between two girls, he would most likely pick the more nurturing one of the two.
So, there you have it. I guess there’s not formula for this one. Sorry guys. But hey, love is an adventure so you gotta discover the way to a woman’s heart.
But I’d like to hear from you ladies; what’s the way to your heart? What does a guy have to do to make your heart smile and even possibly “win” you over?
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