Wale Adetula: ‘RIP Chi…my good friend’

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I first met Chi when I was about ten. I think it was at my Grandmothers place and it was totally coincidental. My Granny’s next door neighbour, Anne was a showstopper.

Anyways, it was my first time spending my holidays at Granny’s place and after playing outside for a bit, I started heading back in and that was when I saw them… well, her. Anne was lifting two boxes and walking towards her apartment door. I must have frozen for a while, thanks to a dude named Chi who brought me back to my senses with a nudge and then told me what I needed to do to get Annie’s attention.

Without processing what he had said, I ran towards Anne, mumbling. “Please let me help you with those,” I offered grabbing the items off her before she could answer. For my efforts, I got a peck (on the cheek) and Anne called me a perfect gentleman. And I thanked Chi for helping me make that first move. We became inseparable from that moment.

Chi was just so good with the ladies. He helped me learn so much more about women and in no time, striking the right chord with the ladies was so easy.

Because of Chi, I learnt to cook. Lol! Don’t be so quick to say that’s a good thing oh because I totally did it to save my life. The crazy boy somehow got into my head and convinced me to always pay for (at least) the first three dates I went to with ladies. That might not sound so bad but back then, I had just left school, earning a ridiculous salary on my first job and I wasn’t the luckiest with the ladies so those first three dates came by pretty often. Solution was for me to learn how to cook and make sure dates 2 and 3 were at my place. Result was that my fortunes changed with the women and I discovered a talent I never knew I had. A talent that now earns me a mighty load of money. He will be missed.

I remember when I told Chi I was going to ask Jennifer to marry me. After his many congratulations, he added “You do know you have to be the first to change your Facebook relationship status”. If you didn’t know the kind of person he was, you’d wonder why on earth he thought of that at that particular point in time. But that was the Chi I grew up with. And you can imagine how much guilt I felt as I changed my Facebook status to “married” after I heard about his death.

I still can’t believe it. In fact, I know it’s not true because he always said it. Just like Jesus, he predicted his own death. He said a time would come when most people would be so mean and wouldn’t be able to process most of the things he had taught me especially about being a gentleman. When women would laugh at you for opening their doors or think you were ‘over-doing’ it by pulling up a chair for them at the dinner table. Yes, he said it. He said women would begin to think it is their prerogative to sleep on the dry side of the bed after sex. A lot of men would bullshit his teachings by applying them to only good-looking women. As social media advanced and his prophesies began to come to past, his depression began. We all thought he’d survive it. But…. Rest in peace my good friend- Chivalry.

Today I have a few questions. Firstly, do you think Chivalry is dead in these parts? Was it ever alive? If your answer to the first question is yes, then I’d like to know why you think so. If not, please share instances and maybe some experiences with us. or should I have started with the definition of Chivalry? Use the comment box and speak your mind.


– @Thetoolsman (I also write at http://www.thenakedconvos.com )

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Comments (3)

  1. He's still alive. Just not many people take his teachings seriously anymore. In fact, his teachings are considered old fashioned and in extreme cases, abnormal.

    It behoves on us to make up our minds to stick to what's right in a rapidly decaying world.

    Well done Wale.

  2. I totally knew from the first line he spoke about chivalry…I am amazed at how many women dont see the loaded gun in their own hands as they complain they miss him!!!It existed till girls thought it was cool to be black in a non-black way!!!Dont get me started…..

  3. Chi isn't dead at all, One day during the occupy most. My sandals cut, and a friend took off his snickers and gave me and walked bare feet on scorching coal tar from yaba to gani park. Chi truly lives.

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