by Carmen Chong
Have you tried to initiate sex with your guy after one of his late nights at work? Chances are, he’ll say no because he won’t be ready. Even after you’ve told him that you’ll do anything kinky he wants, he pushes your face away.
Is your significant other having an affair with another woman? Although it’s never easy to tell for sure and we women tend to over-analyse these possibilities, there are certain telltale signs that could lead you to the final caveat. Here are some common indicators which shows that he might have another woman in his life.
1. He needs a lot of privacy
If he walks into the next room when he takes a call or has become a very private person all of a sudden, there is something suspicious going on. He also probably doesn’t like it when you’re seated in his vicinity when he’s using the computer because you might catch him chatting with his new special someone. No man would suddenly start behaving mysteriously if he has nothing to hide.
2. He’s wary of his mobile phone
His mobile phone could almost be the biggest giveaway if your guy is having an affair. Don’t you find it weird if he has to keep his phone close to him at all times, even when he visits the loo? If he hears a beep from his phone and quickly glances at you first before looking at the message, there’s a very good chance that he’s up to something fishy.
3. He’s frequently unavailable
Have you called him five times in the past two hours but couldn’t reach him? If you’re suddenly finding it difficult to get in touch with your partner, there is a chance that they may be with someone else they don’t want you to know about. Without answering your calls or replying to your texts, he can spend time with the other woman without having to rush home or attend to your needs.
4. He uses the old excuse – stuck at work
This is the lamest excuse he can give you, but surprisingly, it still works. You can’t do anything about it anyway, can you? Then again, he may really be working late, or may even be planning a surprise for you. Although this sign alone isn’t strong enough to let you know for sure, it surely is plausible.
5. He suddenly takes the effort to groom himself
Has he been spending a lot of time admiring himself in the mirror? Does he spend a longer time making sure that he looks and smells good before he walks out the door? If he’s been doing this even before the both of you met, great. But if he suddenly changes his routine to look all smart without even consulting you, you should be worried.
6. He’s overly defensive
When you question him about his whereabouts and activities, he raises his voice and becomes overly defensive in response to your questions. “Why are you asking me this question?” “Why should I report everything to you?” If this sounds familiar, your man could be up to no good.
7. He stops having spontaneous sex with you
Have you tried to initiate sex with your guy after one of his late nights at work? Chances are, he’ll say no because he won’t be ready. Even after you’ve told him that you’ll do anything kinky he wants, he pushes your face away. We get it if he’s really tired at times, but if this has been reoccurring for the past six months, you can wave your intimacy goodbye.
8. He becomes secretive and unusual
Does he blush and smile when he reads messages from his phone and then quickly turns away when he catches you looking at him? Other indicators are like the calls that he takes outside, computer screens switching when you walk into the room and the reluctance to bring you to places with his buddies. Any behaviour that is secretive, unusual or unexplained, especially if he has inexplicably changed would signify that he could be hiding something.
9. He hangs out with friends you’ve never heard of before
If your man is cheating on you, he wouldn’t want to involve a friend you know well or have spoken to before. What if you call them up and ask them questions about him? The best way for him to squirm out of his infidelity is to create imaginary friends or use the names of friends he knows you haven’t met.
10. He becomes distant
This is the number one giveaway as it’s hard to be emotionally invested in two people at once and it’s also tough to be intimate with someone while you betray her trust. Most guys cannot handle the guilt of cheating, so they create distance. If your conversations have become purely superficial, he could be drawing himself away from you because he’s getting closer to someone else.
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