Being able to decipher the fine line between moans of pleasures or groaning with discomfort is vital.
This is one question to which every guy seems to have an answer and yet, most men find themselves lost, trying to figure out why their woman didn’t react as enthusiastically they had imagined.The problem lies in men perceiving sex in a very typical, miniscule way. While many try to ape maneuvers preached in prohibited content accessible on the web, the more intellectual types turn to books and weird yogic postures. Somehow, people forget that most problems have a rather simple solution, i.e. in doing the basics right. This article tries to decode what can be done to impress your girl in bed without trying something extreme or ridiculous.
Fool Around, Mix-up & Experiment with Foreplay
Most women like to be teased before actually committing to the act of sex. You can understand it as a kind of comprehensive foreplay which includes everything from kissing her slightly, giving her those typical lewd looks, passing comments about the size of her breasts or her shapely outline.
Anything that can physically or psychologically stimulate her is good enough. This form of foreplay extends even when initiating sex. The idea should be to prolong the foreplay before doing it, getting her excited to the maximum.
This includes something as simple as whispering your wildest fantasies in her ears, breathing heavily and licking the insides of her ears and cupping the insides of her thighs as you verbally detail your intentions of munching upon every part of her chocolaty body.
Try to Listen to Her Body
An inherent part of being good in bed is to being able to decipher what she wants. If you cannot decode what is making her uncomfortable or what turns her on, impressing your girl in the bed could be a major challenge. For this, you need to become a lot more perceptive.
Being able to decipher the fine line between moans of pleasures or groaning with discomfort is vital. For instance, using the fingers to pleasure a girl is common. However, some women might not react encouragingly to this. Basically, you need to back down from what becomes more painful rather than pleasurable.
Initiate Sex when Least Expects to Impress Her in Bed
Initiating sex in typical environments like your bedroom or getting it on during the same time slots can make sex predictable. You need to understand that the surroundings or situations in which you make love have a lot to do to the degree she can be turned-on.
For instance, you might be planning to impress her in the bed tonight, but rather than initiating the foreplay after reaching home, get started prematurely. When she is about to leave office, you can SMS provocative messages to her. When she is seated in the car, caress her thighs, every time you make a stop at the traffic light.
You can also change the backdrop for getting intimate. Try to initiate sex at the most unexpected moments. For instance, during early mornings, start cozying up to her, rubbing her back or caressing her breasts while she is still asleep. For many women, this combination of sleepy haze and being caressed by their men is an instant, erotic high.
Make Her Feel Desired like a Sexual Goddess
Many women get disappointed since men make sex dependent upon some fixed parameters. For instance, having your girl naked, within the confines of your locked room might be the rules that you have unintentionally established. However, you can seriously impress your girl in bed, if you are ready to think out of the box.
For example, ask her to cook wearing the tiniest of lingerie gowns. Make her do teeny-weeny bits of housework wearing something that hardly covers her. She should feel your gaze on her body. By the time you catch hold of her and head to the bedroom, she would be clawing the clothes off your body. This is a perfect example of how sexuality is primarily in our minds. If your girl is convinced that you just cannot get enough of her, she will never be disappointed in the bed.
Tease Her Shamelessly Before Bedding Her
Yes, some people regard teasing as an inherent part of foreplay. Some examples of the same have been listed above too. However, where stimulating foreplay ends, unashamed sexual teasing begins. There are many ways do this. Ideally, this should be done when you haven’t indicated to her about your intentions of having sex.
For instance, you guys are in the lift, headed to an office party and she is wearing a graceful saree or any dress that slightly exposes her mid-riff. Slither your hands all over her bare waist, clenching her flesh with your fingers. When at the party, distance yourself from her. Start texting her about the different men who are staring at her. Be very detailed in what part of her they are staring at and why. By the time you guys are headed back, she would be more eager than you to get it on in the bed. Here, you have guaranteed that you will impress her in bed by blatantly arousing her.
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