by Olga Kachmar

True love is something that all people search for, especially when they are young. It should be mentioned that men and women have different attitude to love. It is a well-known fact that boys love with their eyes and girls love with their ears. That means all the words we hear from our guys are very important to us and we take everything serious.

Being trustful, women can easily fall in love and give their heart away to those men who don’t deserve their great affection. That’s why I advise you to be reasonable when you start a new relationship. Don’t let your feelings and emotions prevail over your mind or finally you will get disappointed and frustrated. Consider the following reasons why you shouldn’t give your heart away so easily and you will manage to avoid big mistakes in your life.

1. You Will Get Hurt

Unfortunately very often we can get attached to handsome guys just because of their appearance and as a result our heart may be broken and we stay alone. When you see that a boy doesn’t love you sincerely you’d better not rush into this relationship as it will never finish happily for you. Lots of women hope that real feelings will come with the time and they will be able to change the situation. But I think there is no need to begin love affair only because you want that and you are tired of being alone. If you meet a nice man and you like him, first of all you should find out if he has all the qualities that attract you in a partner.

2. Men Are Lustful

It’s not a secret that men are lustful and we can’t do anything with this. Due to this fact you shouldn’t trust them so quickly. Surely, I don’t want to say that all men are the same, but it is quite natural that most of them at first pay much attention to our face and body and only after that they fall in love with our personality. If you want to build a strong and long lasting relationship physical attraction will not be enough for you. So, you need to wait a bit before you give him your heart and open your soul.

3. Decide What You Really Want

The first thing you should do when looking for a guy is to draw an image of your ideal and perfect man in your mind. It is necessary to know what qualities you expect to see in your boyfriend in order to realize your plans and make your dreams come true. So many girls often change their decision about the kind of man they want to find and such uncertainty generally results in choosing the wrong person. This is one of the greatest reasons you shouldn’t fall in love so easily and lose your mind. Make sure you set your goal and figure out which characteristics in a partner are the most valuable for you. If you are lucky to meet the one date for some time and then you can move to something more serious.

4. Maybe You Just Try to Fill a Void

Perhaps you’ve just broken up with your ex or you suffer from some troubles in your life, in such case your new love will be nothing more but the way to get rid of your sadness and fill the emptiness in your heart. If you don’t get enough attention from a man and don’t feel his kindness that is a clear sign he is not the one you need. All your feelings to him are deceptive. You don’t love this boy. The only reason why you are with him is your desire to get some warmth and care from him.

5. Build a Foundation First

Foundation is one of those things that will help you make your relationship happy and successful. Even to build a good house you need a foundation, so when it comes to love the one is extremely important. All lovers have to go through certain steps before they will become closer to each other. Everything starts from small talks, after you begin to trust your partner and discover numerous common things that both of you have. If you have passed these stages of your relationship successfully now you are ready to give him your heart and become a part of him.

6. You Have Time to Choose Carefully

Certainly you should be careful and picky to make the right choice in your life. Always keep in mind those characteristics you appreciate in men and look for the one who possesses them. Don’t waste your time for someone who doesn’t satisfy your requirements. If you still don’t realize what kind of a partner you want to find, there is a big possibility you will give your heart away to any man just for the sake of love and attention. If you meet a handsome and attractive guy, that is not the reason for you to fall in love with him. His personal qualities matter much more than his lovely face. Anyway you are a young and pretty girl and you will meet so many interesting people in future. Sooner or later you will find your destiny, just live your life and follow your dream.

7. He May Hide Something from You

To our great disappointment the majority of men are insincere and they may hide a lot of things while dating with us. In my opinion this is a convincing reason why we should be picky when choosing the man to spend our life with. Time is a crucial thing that may influence your final decision. Only time will enable you to learn more about your boyfriend and understand if he is the one you are searching for. Accordingly to avoid stress and frustration you shouldn’t open your heart to a man before you know all his bad and good sides.

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