Quite unexpectedly, bisexuality became one of the buzzy topics on social media on Thursday. We are used to seeing homosexuality being debated on and argued against with the purpose of marginalizing LGBTQ people. I have always said that Nigerians are still yet to wrap their heads around homosexuality. Now throw in bisexuality and watch them combust. I saw some biphobic reactions when popular media content platform Sublivery Zone posted a tweet, where a woman’s friend revealed to her that her husband came out to her as bisexual. She asked her for advice and she said she was going to ask Twitter. Well, I really don’t think Twitter was helpful.
— SubDeliveryZone (@SubDeliveryZone) May 9, 2019
First, it’s not enough to contemplate or entertain divorce when your spouse comes out as bisexual. Male bisexuality is still largely under-discussed within our conversations on sexuality, especially in Nigeria, and coupled with the heavy, dangerous prevalence of homophobia. Which is further used to strip bisexual men of their identity wherein society tells them that bisexuality is a ”phase” and a ”pathway” towards becoming gay. While this is valid and true for some bisexuals who had to discover where there are on the spectrum of sexuality later in life, some bisexuals have a strong sense of who they are at a younger age.