by Merarri Martinez
There are certain signs your relationship is worth saving even when things have gotten to be a bit bumpy. All relationships have their ups and downs but you should still be happy overall with the relationship. Ladies if you are wondering whether you should fix the problems in your relationship or whether its best to walk away, I’m going to help you out. Analyze your relationship as you go through the list below of these signs your relationship is worth saving.
1. WHAT IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP LIKE?
There are elements in a relationship that are crucial so both people can be happy. Ask yourself if your relationship has trust, respect, loyalty, honesty and commitment. These are the building blocks that all good relationships are built on. If your relatiomship is lacking one of these elements, it spells trouble. One of the best signs that your relationship is worth saving is if you have all those fundamental elements in your relationship
The next point to consider is the communication between the two of you. Does this guy meet your communication needs? Some of us like to be texted around the clock while others prefer more phone calls and less text messages. Regardless of your specific needs, your guy should be able to meet them. If you are always unhappy because your boyfriend takes hours to respond to a text or goes days without calling, make your needs clear and try to reach a compromise. If that doesn’t work, maybe its time to rethink the relationship.
When was the last time you had fun with your boyfriend? Consider saving the relationship if you are still able to enjoy each others’ company. But if the relationship feels stale and neither one of you wants to make an effort to liven things up, re-examine the reasons you want to stick around. There should be more good times than bad ones in your relationship.
4.TOP THREE PEOPLE
Make a list of your favorite three people that you enjoy spending time with. Your boyfriend should be somewhere on that list. You should look forward to spending time with him even if it’s just chilling at his place watching movies. Conversations with him should feel comfortable and flow naturally instead of forced and awkward.
5.ARE YOU STILL IN LOVE?
There is a difference between fierce in love feelings and lukewarm feelings when it comes to relationships. If you are crazy in love with each other even though there are problems, chances are both of you will want to save the relationship. But if those feelings are missing, its likely that one of you will start looking for the exit door of the relationship. If the feelings aren’t there, you can’t force them. Once you admit to yourself that you aren’t in love with him, it’s time to hand him his walking papers.
6.THE REALITY OF RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
Think of the issues that you are dealing with in the relationship. Are these minor issues that can be fixed with a bit of effort? Or are you dealing with emotionally life-draining issues that are difficult to handle? Another thing to consider is how much effort is your partner willing to give to fix relationship issues. Both of you should be trying to find solutions to issues and be willing to change if it will improve your relationship.
7.GROWING OLD TOGETHER
The years will pass and there will come a time where you won’t be that fresh-faced young girl but more of a wrinkly old lady full of wisdom to share. Now that you have envisioned yourself as a senior citizen, think of the guy you want beside you. Do you honestly see your current boyfriend as the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with? If you don’t, you have your answer right there.
Hopefully these points helped you clarify if you should fight for your relationship or just let him go. Although it’s difficult to say goodbye to the wrong guy, the right guy will offer you all the great things that a relationship consists of and more. Ladies can you share other signs that a relationship is worth fighting for?
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