by Varun Swasthi
Like most things in life, chancing upon a date doesn’t come easy…leave alone a good one. So even if your date was a real disaster, and it seemed there was truly no way to turn it around, you probably have learnt a lot from it.
1. Get A Wake-Up Call
What do you know: One, two, three…the list of bad dates seems endless. You feel no better than that geek in school who you bullied about never getting some she-company. A bad date is like a wake-up call for you to take responsibility and realize what’s going wrong instead of sulking and complaining.
What have you learnt: Are you following a pattern? Time to experiment and break out, perhaps. Keep your expectations realistic and see magic happen.
2. Gain Confidence
What do you know: Confidence is the evergreen sexy. If you’re unhappy because your date won’t give you a chance to speak, don’t stew silently. Change the subject and bring the conversation back to you, so you have an opportunity to share as well as keep her indulged. In cases more than one, she’s just nervous and, hence, is blubbering away to avoid awkward silences.
What have you learnt: Talk and let her talk. Ask for what you want by showing the confidence to turn the conversation around, making her as well as yourself happier and comfortable.
3. Learn To Empathize
What do you know: A bad date need not mean you act like a mean retard. Women generally try their best to behave as polite as possible. Hence, respect that and be a real man. Some amount of chivalry will earn you the respect as well as higher possibility of a better date sooner.
What have you learnt: Be open and empathetic and it will translate towards your future relationships as well.
4. Practice Makes Perfect
What do you know: Won’t you swear by this? We do! Like most things in life, chancing upon a date doesn’t come easy…leave alone a good one. So even if your date was a real disaster, and it seemed there was truly no way to turn it around, you probably have learnt a lot from it. Every date is a chance to learn something new and hone your conversation (also flirting!) skills for the next time.
What have you learnt: If at first you don’t succeed, try, try (and keep trying!) again.
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