by HD

Happy New Year!!

2011 has finally come. We’ve resumed work, all is firmly underway, and this is a reality check on our New Year resolutions. Let’s do a quick check our love meters and see how it rates on our resolution ladder. That’s right, let’s see how much love means to you this year.

If one of your resolutions for 2011 was to make your partner happy (in any way), wave your flag as you are the champions! Please share with those of us who have no idea how to go about making our partners happy. Sometimes it’s hard for a woman to understand how her man really feels, and sometimes the man cannot really understand what the woman wants as well. They say ‘women are from Venus and men are from Mars’; I say ‘women are fire and men are ice’. How can the two stay in harmony?

You will be surprised at how many problems in relationships are due to lack of understanding your partner not so much because of who he or she is, but more as a result of their gender.

Guys get tired of their woman’s fashion talk, shopping sprees, romantic comedies a.k.a. chick flicks, waking up to talk in the middle of the night when all he wants is to be asleep, and how she always want to know everything! And women! Let’s not even start. Women do not like the way the men hang out with their friends, having beers and unmentionable conversations! Women are convinced that hanging out with pals includes admiring and hooking up with gorgeous young girls who are out to get any man, not caring whose he is. Let’s not mention how she reacts if another woman even says hello or dares to make eye contact with her guy in her presence!

It’s important to remember that a man is a man and a woman is a woman, both on the outside and on the inside. Face it, you wouldn’t like it any other way would you? Guys, would you really like your beautiful woman to actually be a man on the inside, all hard and perfunctory about the ‘softer’ issues? And women, how would you feel if your handsome hunk speaks with a high-pitched squeak; is extremely mushy all the time; cries when watching movies – leaving you to be the bold and brave one?

There is a reason why a man is a man and a woman is a woman. The two complement each other, the strength of one covers the other’s weakness and vice versa.

This year, let it be on your list of New Years Resolutions to go out of your way to make your partner happy. At the end of the day, it will make you happy as well. Forget the psycho babble about how no one should depend on another one for happiness. It’s great in theory, but the truth of the matter is that we are relational beings and the state of your relationship has a big say on your level of personal happiness. Because I am so nice and full of love this New Year, here’s a tip for you all:

Men: Most women are responsive beings, and a little attention (with your mind really present) will tell you exactly what you need to do. Trust me, you make her happy and you will be happy – very happy.

Women: You know now. Do all you can to make your man happy. Just don’t expect him to be a mugu for you oh! Reasonable expectations and a little appreciation will go a long way.

Now that we are all happy, welcome to 2011 and a Happy New Year to all.

Photo credit: advice.lovedetour.com

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