Opinion: There is no valid reason to abuse your spouse

Over the past few days, there have been quite a number of experiences shared on social media on different forms of domestic violence that people face in marriage.

This topic can never be over flogged, not if we continue at this rate.

However it is a good thing that lots of people are now speaking out and the society no longer spites people who leave a marriage as a result of violence/abuse.

Victims, especially women, usually stay in abusive relationships out of fear of the unknown.

They are afraid that they may lose their children, afraid that they cannot make it on their own, afraid of what society will say, afraid of losing their mutual friends, afraid of financial support.

Some believe that they are the cause of the abuse and that if they could just act differently, things will be better.

Some, especially men, do not even want to admit that they are being abused by their partners.

So instead of fleeing the abusive relationship, they put up a happy front and assure everyone, including themselves, that all is well.

The signs may be subtle but if one pays close attention, they can easily be identified. Domestic violence comes in different forms; physical, sexual, emotional, psychological, economic.

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Any partner who controls or threatens to control the other is already exhibiting signs of violence and usually, once the person starts this abuse, it continues and becomes more frequent.

It’s ok for spouses to have disagreements and conflicts in marriage, after all we are all human beings and we may not always see eye to eye. But the conflict does not have to result in violence.

When the conflict leads to violence or any other form of abuse, then help is needed immediately.

I would like to think that we do not punch our bosses in the face when they offend us (which they do from time to time).

That means there is a level of self-control each person has that stops them from hitting people in the face.

So how about we introduce that self-control into our personal lives as well?

 

Let us not be deceived, even educated people abuse their spouses. They may be successful in their careers and respected in their offices, churches and chosen communities. Abusive people come from all walks of life.

Some men believe that women are inferior and are to be dominated and controlled and this makes it very easy for them to abuse their women.

Mutual respect is very important in a marriage; if you have respect for your spouse, it will be very difficult to humiliate or abuse him/her.

There is no valid reason to abuse your spouse; it is better to be divorced and happy.

Domestic violence should not be encouraged at all, whether the couple is dating, married or cohabiting.

Victims of abusive relationships should get out while they can. It is always a safer option to get a divorce than to stay in an abusive marriage, after all it is only a living person that can be in a marriage.

It does not necessarily have to end in divorce though but staying away from such abusive environment is better and safer for all.

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This article first appeared on www.tylegal.com

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