The roles have reversed. In the beginning he used to call you, text you, and send you cute love notes all the time. Now, you’re the one constantly calling him.
Relationships are fantastic, especially when they start out wonderfully. You know the type I’m talking about – when after your first date, you can’t stop thinking about each other and before you know it you’re an exclusive couple. This state of complete bliss is what they like to call the honeymoon period. As time passes, however, things slowly start to change. Maybe you’re just not as happy as you were when you first started dating or you’re fighting with your guy all the time. Either way, it’s time to admit that the relationship is taking a turn for the worse. If you have the slightest doubt that your relationship is in trouble, these signs should help you figure it out!
1. Who Are You?
When you first started dating, you talked about everything. There was nothing you couldn’t bring up to your boyfriend. He was your best friend and your go-to person for all of your secrets. Now, trying to have a conversation with him is getting more difficult by the day. Face the facts – if you aren’t communicating, something is definitely wrong.
2. Bye Bye Sex
Does your man have no interest in having sex with you? You put on your sexiest lingerie, but he just doesn’t want to sleep with you? Does he tell you that he’s not in the mood or that he’s tired or had a long day? If you can’t remember the last time you got busy between the sheets, you’re about to embark on a really long dry spell.
3. Orgasm Who?
When the relationship was just beginning, you were having orgasms around the clock. They were so frequent that you thought life couldn’t get any better. Now, you don’t remember the last time you had one. An orgasm is a woman’s way of connecting with her man. If there’s no orgasm, there’s no connection. So, realize it might be time to say sayonara to your relationship.
4. Call Me!
The roles have reversed. In the beginning he used to call you, text you, and send you cute love notes all the time. Now, you’re the one constantly calling him. What happened? He simply lost interest. Don’t take it personally, his heart just isn’t in the relationship anymore.
5. Shower Time
Has your man been taking really long showers? He’s in there for a while and you wonder what he’s doing? Yes, it’s been hot out recently so people are definitely showering more, but if your man is making his long shower time a routine, he’s probably not just rinsing off.
6. Where’d The Fun Go?
When you first met, your boyfriend was pulling out all the romantic stops. He loved to surprise you with home-cooked dinner nights and incredible vacations. Now, trying to get him to take you on a date is practically impossible. Don’t let his lack of romance get you down. Go out with your girlfriends and have some fun instead!
7. Hey Friends
In a relationship, it’s normal to spend time with your friends. In fact, if you’re not hanging out with your friends, then you’re doing something wrong. But, if you see your friends more than you see your man, your relationship is in danger.
8. Work, Work, Work
Is your boyfriend all of the sudden really busy with work? He always spent a lot of time at the office, but now he seems to have work events every other night. Well, newsflash! He’s avoiding you. Of course there’s many men out there that have to work a lot, but if he wants to see you, he’ll make time regardless of his work schedule.
9. Forget Me Not
Do his thoughts seem to be somewhere else these days? Does he forget all special occasions like holidays and anniversaries? Perhaps he’s trying to send you little hints that he doesn’t want to be in the relationship anymore.
10. World War III
Does it feel like you’re fighting a war in your personal life? If you and your partner are always at each other’s throats, something is clearly wrong. It’s common for couples to fight – if they didn’t, make-up sex wouldn’t be as much fun as it is. But there’s a fine line between healthy fighting and fighting incessantly with no resolution.
If after reading this, you realize that this sounds like your life, it’s time to get out. Don’t be afraid to end the relationship. Breaking up with someone can also be empowering – ladies, we’re more independent than ever! Besides, it’s better to be single than to be in a relationship that’s quickly going sour. So get out there and make a positive change. There’s no one that can change your life but you!
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