The conversation on Twitter since yesterday has been fixated on sexual abuse, sexual assault, domestic violence- and in particular who bears the brunt of sexual abuse and violence more.
It was set in motion by this thread by Jasper (@JajaPhD)
Sigh…. what is happening?
This lady murdered her boyfriend just a few days ago. pic.twitter.com/sJUHLDpdRy
— Chi (@JajaPhD) May 11, 2017
We have a problem on our hands. There's a culture of abuse against men that has been overlooked for too long.
We must stand up against it.
— Chi (@JajaPhD) May 11, 2017
Our inaction is the reason why the murderer could openly declare him wanted just hours before ending his life.
Violence against men exists.
— Chi (@JajaPhD) May 11, 2017
Problem was, a couple of days ago, a girl had been declared missing on Twitter and yesterday, the news broke that she had been burnt by her boyfriend, so Twitter NG considered Jaja inquiry bad timing and insensitive.
So it all went downhill from there
You're really a piece of shit. Why didn't you bring it up when it happened? https://t.co/4qUQukCUei
— c-a-n-i-b-a-l (@caanniiball) May 11, 2017
Please don't start. Violence on men where??? See how you people kill us left and right
— ChildOfGrace (@miss_ivykay) May 11, 2017
Lol! When men choose to raise their issues, these same women hijack the convo with subs and insults ???
— HRH Adabekee? (@cremechic11) May 11, 2017
Jaja claps back
Where does a conversation head when it starts with 'men are trash'?
Would you listen to me if I came up to you and said 'you are stupid'?
— Chi (@JajaPhD) May 11, 2017
if I've heard I am stupid many times. Yes. Btw it's not a discussion. It has been established.
— Nimue (@La_Yi_De_) May 11, 2017
So, you have established that men are trash and I have established that although I am a man, I am not trash. Why should I pay you any mind?
— Chi (@JajaPhD) May 11, 2017
Clearly, whatever you have to say won't apply to me and since you failed to recognise my individuality, why should I listen to you?
— Chi (@JajaPhD) May 11, 2017
then you'll come of as being self-righteous and selfish. You can't choose to remain aloof cos it doesn't apply to you.
— Nimue (@La_Yi_De_) May 11, 2017
Chine Ezekwesili isn’t taking it
Men, each & everyone of us is conditioned by society to be trash. Unless you're from Mars, you're no exception. So please stfu already.
— Chine Ezekwesili ? (@ChineEzeks) May 11, 2017
The hubris & ignirance to think you somehow escaped being conditioned by a patriarchal society & the privilege it affords you. Amazing.
— Chine Ezekwesili ? (@ChineEzeks) May 11, 2017
You're not trash, but you feel more displeasure about being called trash than about women experiencing displeasure from trash. Ok.
— Chine Ezekwesili ? (@ChineEzeks) May 11, 2017
Women are violent too
Heard a story of how a lady has broken her fiancé's TV 3 times, because she was angry at him.
What kinda madness is that?— An Unapologetic Slay Queen, don't stress me plis (@Marrgarritah) May 11, 2017
I know of a girl that grabbed on her boyfriend's steering while he was on the highway in Abuja here. Said both of them must die that day
— imabong (@ima_george___) May 11, 2017
Some girls are crazy
— ?Nora? (@miss__dimples) May 11, 2017
Crazy is an understatement my dear…
It's both gender tho. I just really wonder who raised such people tho— imabong (@ima_george___) May 11, 2017
Lol.. na small e remain make one ex pour salt inside my car engine years back ??.
— BIG ZADDY ?? (@ZaddyDD) May 11, 2017
Lol, It was my neighbor that begged the idiot o, I wasn't around and she behaved normal when I came in. I got to know a week later
— BIG ZADDY ?? (@ZaddyDD) May 11, 2017
My Ex broke my Laptop with an hammer in my presence because she was mad I wasnt replying her while she rants. Its crazy and scary.
— Obayemi? (@Obayemiiee) May 11, 2017
She became too possessive more like an obsession and Fear that I might break up with her. Had to go AWOL for awhile.
— Obayemi? (@Obayemiiee) May 11, 2017
Hacked my IG account and sent several demeaning texts to my followers in my dm and shared my number randomly telling them I was missing.
— Obayemi? (@Obayemiiee) May 11, 2017
So many Guys go through assaults like this but try to man Up because Society doesnt show more concern about Situations like this.
— Obayemi? (@Obayemiiee) May 11, 2017
Cray shit. Dated one crazy ass girl like that. Had to run for my life. She legit smashed her phones 3 times cuz we argued. Turn the room ⬇️
— Emerytus (@Abdulhaphiez) May 11, 2017
1. My friend's ex actually smashed his car windscreens, side mirrors n car body cos she saw a girl who happened to b a colleague in d car..
— Ola (@inspiratibiz) May 11, 2017
2) same girl sent thugs to beat us up cos she felt her man brought a girl to mines as he refused to see her.. We gat call one mopol friend
— Ola (@inspiratibiz) May 11, 2017
Some women are mad tho.I had one babe like that,she would always carry a knife whenever we quarrel.I had to run.
— ODEN11BO (@odenibo) May 11, 2017
Reading this tweet's replies got me saying nawa…. Real one.
Ewure Ati maalu ti poju ni igboro… ?
— Mudiaga (@Optimeast) May 11, 2017
Pree the replies ppl. I'm literally shaking.
So many abused and mentally scarred men who have been unable to open up due to trauma.— King Olagoke (@KvngOla) May 11, 2017
Even this
LMAO. 2012.my friends wife broke Three TV, his Highlander windscreen&iPhone cause he cheated.She was still girlfriend then tho
— El Hadj Diouf (@Olgee_) May 11, 2017
at least she didn't break his face ??
— JULIA (@ijay_nwadiaro) May 11, 2017
Women are the cause
As much as i'm not okay with men abusing women i believe its only proper that as we teach men we should also teach women not to provoke men
— Havillah (@Ms_Eno) May 11, 2017
I'm not buying this fable, men have agency, that is self-control, control of temper, temperament and reaction. Without it, they're animals. https://t.co/0kdYgC5hMZ
— Akin Akíntáyọ̀ #FBPE (@forakin) May 11, 2017
Define provoke!!!cause most men are plain annoying ,same as women,but then we can't beat them up.so,pls define provoke!
— Achanneya (@AchamaOnumah) May 11, 2017
That on its own is domestic violence. Its not exclusive to just men.
— Yushau Adozuka (@iambigbrains) May 11, 2017
https://twitter.com/chimmyxxx/status/862749674909966339
My point is BOTH should be taught not to provoke one another so peace can reign
— Havillah (@Ms_Eno) May 11, 2017
https://twitter.com/chimmyxxx/status/862759942826184705
Agreed
— Havillah (@Ms_Eno) May 11, 2017
u see that's the problem, it has always bin abt teaching women… It's time to start teaching sons that they are not more important
— CCJ (@MsChikwendu) May 11, 2017
,woman have been taught that from babies to when they became girls & then women,they be been taught 2 shut up and manage the man.
— vikky (@vikkyiwara) May 11, 2017
We've been teaching women this for eons. What we haven't done is teach our sons to see women as equals. https://t.co/zgK8947bfW
— Amara Nwankpa (@Nwankpa_A) May 11, 2017
God is our helper
https://twitter.com/Crayune/status/862675197568192513
Let’s fact check that
How about your boss sir? And the police man on the road? And your neighbour with big chest? U won't pray that they shldnt frustrate u too? https://t.co/Lmp4Quwdjf
— rolayo your food and smallchops plug (@superflycook) May 11, 2017
Trauma is real
I was raped by my Dad. MY DAD. ? https://t.co/arx9Xd2W5T
— Ab Mayaba ? (@_Vanilla24) May 11, 2017
He told me not to make a big deal out of it because kaloku ndafunyanwa nge rape mna kqala…the nerve.
— Ab Mayaba ? (@_Vanilla24) May 11, 2017
My heart ??? pic.twitter.com/TreaqJQHkq
— Nosipho (@ItsNosipho) May 11, 2017
My uncle molested me and my cousins for years, he would sit us on his lap and sing church hymns, his fingers buried deep in our vaginas. https://t.co/vsghGXkU2Y
— NerdLove (@BeautMess12) May 11, 2017
you walk into huge board meetings and pitch for a massive account. You're applauded they loved it! At tea time the VP saunters over
— moon ? (@wittnsass) May 11, 2017
Says he likes seeing women in charge, seeing black women do their thing. (This was board with only two women). Anyway he says I should
— moon ? (@wittnsass) May 11, 2017
keep up the good work, they like me and my team. Says I should email him personally with my number so we can discuss this in detail
— moon ? (@wittnsass) May 11, 2017
Says to use his gmail, underscores his cell on his business card. I feel great, he says I look beautifull, likes my size. I want to vomit
— moon ? (@wittnsass) May 11, 2017
I laugh dejectedly and hurry us out of there. Everyone is hyped in the car,asks why im not excited,I say I am but just coming down from high
— moon ? (@wittnsass) May 11, 2017
i tell them I have a budget to do not to disturb me. I lock the office. The business needs the money, This man is using power, Im anxious
— moon ? (@wittnsass) May 11, 2017
I run it by a friend, confirms that she feels he's doing that too. Im angry as fuck, I wish it was just about our work. I hate everything
— moon ? (@wittnsass) May 11, 2017
I send the email to procurement with all the docs they need,I cc his work email, he sees my cell in signature, texts me later that evening
— moon ? (@wittnsass) May 11, 2017
I'm anxious I'm anxious I'm anxious I'm anxious I'm anxious I'm anxious
— moon ? (@wittnsass) May 11, 2017
my own abuse was from supposed mum-in-law. Bitch gave me serious psychological toture. I bless God for rescuing me.
— Tt (@OmidanAjibola) May 11, 2017
Memories. Memories
Worst thing I did today was open this TL cos now I'm crying in a bus cos things I kept bottled up are coming back to me all at once.
— Funa banana (@QueenFuna) May 11, 2017
See ehn. I didn't mean to open Twitter today and be flooded with all these memories. Sigh. https://t.co/zIjEEiZXzG
— Ijeoma Ogwuegbu Udum (@IjeomaOgud) May 11, 2017
The TL is extremely triggering today. My heart goes out to those women who are having painful flashbacks & are being reminded of tragedies.
— SKM (@SandisiweM_) May 11, 2017
Don't do this. I've done it before and today I think different. Trauma makes people react irrationally sometimes. Help is what they need
— Kwami (@KwamiAdadevoh) May 11, 2017
So many stories but not even nearly half the picture. For every woman who's sharing, there's many more who aren't
— A bike (@queen_velo) May 11, 2017
Na wa
I don't know why we keep coming up with "indecent dressing" as excuse for harassment and rape. There can't be justification for rape.
— Ayobami Alarape (@ayoalarape) May 11, 2017
But
Lol. Abeg let's be honest about this thing so people know why they are attracted to rubbish. Not when jungle mature, na so so "Men are scum"
— EchoChambers Are Bae by Gene Peterson (@EuginhoCortez) May 11, 2017
A man killed a woman in SA.
A woman killed a man in Rivers State.Scum has no gender.
— Dr. Dipo Awojide (@OgbeniDipo) May 11, 2017
The world is a dangerous place for women because of men. The world is a dangerous place for men also because of men. Fix men, fix the world.
— AYO SOGUNRO (@ayosogunro) May 11, 2017
Summary
I think our laws about domestic violence are not serious enough and the orientation of our enforcement agencies is warped.
— Unbothered (@Oriadday) May 11, 2017
I think the time is ripe for the Church to start addressing Child molestation, gender-based violence & domestic abuse from the pulpit.
— Adebayo Bankole Akintunde (@AdeBanqie) May 11, 2017
I'm glad SM has enabled open if fractuos conversations about abuse, rape and gender. It's progress. We couldn't get people taking 10 yrs ago
— Funmi Iyanda (@Funmilola) May 11, 2017
The amazing vibrancy of Nigerians is stunted by conservatism of ideas and philosophies, these conversations may help spur a mind revolution
— Funmi Iyanda (@Funmilola) May 11, 2017
A mind revolution towards developmental philosophies to drive social, economic and political change. At least that's my hope. I need hope.
— Funmi Iyanda (@Funmilola) May 11, 2017
If he hits you, he is not a man. He is a Beast. RUN! Stay safe!
— D'banj D Kokomaster (@iamdbanj) May 11, 2017
*Sigh*
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