Wale Adetula: Let’s talk cleavage

 

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Before you think I’m a cave man who thinks women should be wrapped up everywhere they go, let me just say – I’m not

It all started a couple of days back when I changed my Twitter app. The new app was recently developed and it had all the new techy features. One of those features is the scarily vivid thumbnails of the avatars on one’s timeline. Now, by scarily vivid, I mean, the images are so refined that you can almost see all the details without enlarging it.  Coming from my old app on which I hardly ever had avatars turned on, this was a major difference. First glance at my timeline and I almost didn’t recognize anyone. It almost felt like I had signed into the wrong account. I instantly took notice of the avatars and as I scrolled through my timeline, it was almost as if there was a pattern.

I’ve never been able to decide if I’m really a boobs or ass man. I’m probably stuck somewhere in between but like most men, I appreciate a well-packaged and erm… well-presented pair of ‘breastices’. By the time I zoomed into the third avatar, I leaned back on my chair and thought to myself… So…. ?

Being a teasing man, I have come to learn that the actual process of enticement or seduction doesn’t happen outside the mind. Yes, it might start there but it’s completed in ones mind. As a result, I’ve always been an advocate of ‘less can be more‘ (notice I said ‘can’ because a lot of factors go into that). I really don’t know what it is (and that’s part of why we are here), maybe education, independence, societal pressure or whatever but over the past few years, I’ve discovered that our women ‘seem’ to have almost lost respect for that one sexual body part every man in the world should have had some sort of connection with regardless of their sexual status/preferences.

Yes. I’m talking about the breastices, tits, jugs, bazoomas, breasts and in plain english: boobies.

This post will probably lead to some sort of debate but before then, please bear with me as I present my case. Let me journey back a few years to my freshman year at Unilag (ok, a lot of years).

One of the first things that however got my attention back then was how self-conscious a lot of the girls in school were. Only the really bold ones would even come to class sporting a really low-necked tank top. It just seemed out of place. Fast forward a lot some years forward and it’s almost as if the sexual revolution is back but only bolder and more aggressive. I was in Unilag all through last week for a work-related project and My God, it was erm… Fleshy, to say the least.

Before you think I’m a cave man who thinks women should be wrapped up everywhere they go, let me just say – I’m not. I’ve sometimes encouraged my own sister to loosen up her dressing a bit. What then am I going on about?

How much of cleavage is too much cleavage?

Sometime ago, I tweeted: “… how valuable is a woman’s cleavage nowadays?” and I got an array of interesting answers. Personally, I don’t mind the occasional tease. I need some erm… “Encouragement” from time to time don’t I? But when you bait a horse with so many apples too often, it gets bored and starts to crave something else.

Thankfully I’m not yet at that point and even if I was, this post isn’t my attempt at getting women to start exposing other body parts. Cleavage will forever attract men (it’s the forerunner to a taste we acquired very early on) but if you make a habit of putting it in our faces all the time then don’t blame us if that’s all we ever want from you.

So what do I want to know? For the guys reading this, take a step back from hating me for writing this and please tell us how much value you would ascribe to a woman’s cleavage nowadays with respect to other body parts? And for the women, has it almost become second nature for you to show cleavage? Do you make conscious efforts to put it out there because you think or know it gets guys attention? So, people, let’s talk boobies. Use the comment box and speak your mind. Cheers.

 

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Comments (5)

  1. I'm a cave man that believe woman should be wrapped up whenever they're out. To me, too much cleavage=cheap.

  2. i must live on the moon cos I don't remember seeing any cleavage in such a long while. Well, I'm female so maybe that accounts for why but I think I'd notice. Must be the circles I move in 😉

  3. Nice write up. I totally agree with all that you wrote. Interestingly, just recently I saw online a research that says the first place a man looks at in a woman is the breast part! It is not a misnomer, but really ladies can do better covering properly the seductive breast region!

  4. In the actaul sense I believe the question should be how do women hope men react when shown that much cleavage.

    I believe its one of those unpopular rules that as long as them teats are not out in the open then you are not showing too much cleavage.

    I have no problem with it though for as long as we are allowed to stare with out being called impolite or rude or perverted…

  5. Interesting…

    I've noticed the trend lately too! Beats me though. I'm sure it makes women feel feminine. I just wonder why they get offended when a guy stares down when having a conversation with them. Suddenly,its his fault for not being able to control his eyes and mind,and he's a pervert!

    Its one of the new things we'll have to get used to anyway,I doubt its going away anytime soon!

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