Woman who married boyfriend after his debilitating accident makes video of their incredible love story (PHOTOS, WATCH)

The heart-warming story of a Pennsylvania  woman whose boyfriend suffered a debilitating brain injury has gone viral since  the still-loving couple decided to get married despite his continued  disability.

The Story of Ian & Larissa Murphy is about as  atypical as a love story can be, but it begins and ends the way all the best  ones do—with young lovebirds beating the odds to finally tie the  knot.

But after a 10-month courtship came to an  abrupt halt when Ian got into a horrific car accident, there was a time when  nothing in their young lives seemed certain.

Weathering the storm: Larissa and Ian Murphy were happily married, but not before the young couple was able to weather incredible hardships

Weathering the storm: Larissa and Ian Murphy were  happily married, but not before the young couple was able to weather incredible  hardships

The way they were: Larissa and Ian met in college in 2005 and 10 months later already had plans to get engaged. But their plans came to an abrupt halt when Ian suffered a debilitating brain injury

The way they were: Larissa and Ian met in college in  2005 and 10 months later already had plans to get engaged. But their plans came  to an abrupt halt when Ian suffered a debilitating brain injury

Shattered: Ian was left unable to communicate and it became doubtful that his and Larissa's dreams would ever come true

Shattered: Ian was left unable to communicate and it  became doubtful that his and Larissa’s dreams would ever come true

‘Ian and I first met in 2005 at college and  had a blast for 10 months getting to know each other,’ Larissa says in a video documenting their story that has been making the  internet rounds recently.

Larissa says she and Ian were ‘dating very  intentionally’ and that they planned to get married soon after they were slated  to finish college in December 2006.

But before that could happen, tragedy  intervened.

On September 30 of that year, Ian was on his  way to work near Pittsburgh when he was in a serious car crash.

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Memories: Larissa says Ian was shopping for engagement rings when he suffered his injury near Pittsburgh just months before they were to graduate from college in 2006

Memories: Larissa says Ian was shopping for engagement  rings when he suffered his injury near Pittsburgh just months before they were  to graduate from college in 2006

Hopeful: Larissa moved into Ian's family's home to help take care of him and waited for him to improve. If he could communicate, she said, then they could make a marriage work

Hopeful: Larissa moved into Ian’s family’s home to help  take care of him and waited for him to improve. If he could communicate, she  said, then they could make a marriage work

‘We got a phone call that he had been in an  accident,’ Larissa says. ‘ [He] had suffered a traumatic brain  injury.’

Suddenly, what had seemed so certain to  Larissa, became frighteningly out of reach.

‘We watched our future crash with him in that  white station wagon,’ she writes on desiringgod.org.

But instead of moving on to another man and  future husband, Larissa moved into Ian family’s home to help take care of  him.

Though Ian was unable to communicate, she  continued to date him.

‘I knew where he was so after he couldn’t  talk, that helped me so much. I knew that he loved me,’ she says. ‘Looking back,  it’s weird because he couldn’t talk and he couldn’t eat, so we probably looked  like complete weirdos when we went on dates. But we had a blast and I just  talked to him all the time.’

True love: 'I still don¿t think that Ian would have ever left me if the role had been reversed. And walking away from my best friend was never truly an option,' says Larissa

True love: ‘I still don’t think that Ian would have ever  left me if the role had been reversed. And walking away from my best friend was  never truly an option,’ says Larissa

Larissa says she and Ian were dating 'very intentionally' by 2006 and - despite Ian's subsequent debilitating injuries that keep him from communicating even remotely normally - they were married

Larissa says she and Ian were dating ‘very  intentionally’ by 2006 and – despite Ian’s subsequent debilitating injuries that  keep him from communicating even remotely normally – they were married

Finally: Once Ian could communicate, the couple had to ask a judge if they could marry. He said the marriage could proceed

Finally: Once Ian could communicate, the couple had to  ask a judge if they could marry. He said the marriage could proceed

'You two exemplify what love is all about. I believe that marriage will not only benefit you both but our community and hope that everyone in this city could see your love for one another,' said the judge who determined if they could marry

‘You two exemplify what love is all about. I believe  that marriage will not only benefit you both but our community and hope that  everyone in this city could see your love for one another,’ said the judge who  determined if they could marry

'And even though we chose marriage, we chose it sadly': Larissa and Ian live in western Pennsylvania. Larissa looks to God for inspiration as she continue to struggle with the loss of the man she once knew

‘And even though we chose marriage, we chose it sadly’:  Larissa and Ian live in western Pennsylvania. Larissa looks to God for  inspiration as she continue to struggle with the loss of the man she once  knew

 

As Ian’s condition slowly improved, the  possibility of marriage became stronger.

‘If he could communicate with me,’ she said.  ‘Then we could have a marriage knowing it would be really different but as long  as Ian could talk to me we could make it work.’

While Ian became incrementally healthier, his  father became sick. He was diagnosed with brain cancer during his son’s  recovery.

Ian’s father’s sickness became a catalyst for  Larissa, who knew how much he wanted them to marry.

When Ian was well enough, Larissa took him to  a judge in order to get their marriage approved since he remains unable to make  that sort of decision on his own.

According to Larissa, the judge told her:  ‘You two exemplify what love is all about. I believe that marriage will not only  benefit you both but our community and hope that everyone in this city could see  your love for one another.’

Bittersweet: 'We¿ve watched all of our friends get married and have health. I¿ve watched as my girlfriends and sisters found husbands who could dance with them at their weddings and drive them to church on Sunday morning,' says Larissa

Bittersweet: ‘We’ve watched all of our friends get  married and have health. I’ve watched as my girlfriends and sisters found  husbands who could dance with them at their weddings and drive them to church on  Sunday morning,’ says Larissa

Bittersweet: 'Sorrow has been a permanent resident in our 20s. It feels like the rest of the world uses these years for really fun things. But in our 20s, we have watched our future crash with him in that white station wagon'

Bittersweet: ‘Sorrow has been a permanent resident in  our 20s. It feels like the rest of the world uses these years for really fun  things. But in our 20s, we have watched our future crash with him in that white  station wagon’

'It was so very simple: we love each other': While Larissa never expected to have to provide so much for her husband's need, she says the choice to marry was an easy one

‘It was so very simple: we love each other’: While  Larissa never expected to have to provide so much for her husband’s needs, she  says the choice to marry was an easy one

Touching: Larissa keeps a board in their home on which she and Ian and their visitors post what their thankful for. Larissa says half of Ian's say 'my wifey'

Touching: Larissa keeps a board in their home on which  she and Ian and their visitors post what their thankful for. Larissa says half  of Ian’s say ‘my wifey’

They would soon be married, though the new  would come too late to share with Ian’s father, who died before their  engagement.

Their video documents their touching, family  and friend-filled wedding. Instead of standing, Larissa sits at the altar to be  alongside the still seriously disabled Ian.

She must even help him stand as they complete  their vows, just as she must now help him with everyday tasks.Dedicated: Larissa spends her days working in marketing at a western Pennsylvania bank to help support Ian, who is unable to work

Dedicated: Larissa spends her days working in marketing  at a western Pennsylvania bank to help support Ian, who is unable to  work

Faithful: 'This church, and this marriage, are hemmed in by Jesus and eagerly long for heaven. He is their author and sustainer,' says Larissa

Faithful: ‘This church, and this marriage, are hemmed in  by Jesus and eagerly long for heaven. He is their author and sustainer,’ says  Larissa

'But in light of all the practicals, and emotionals,' says Larissa, 'it was so very simple: we love each other. And we love God. And we believe He is a sovereign and loving God who rules all things.'

‘But in light of all the practicals, and emotionals,’  says Larissa, ‘it was so very simple: we love each other. And we love God. And  we believe He is a sovereign and loving God who rules all things.’

Difficult: 'Marrying Ian meant that I was signing on to things that I don¿t think I ever would¿ve chosen for myself,' says Larissa, who supports Ian and manages his care. 'The practical costs felt huge'

Difficult: ‘Marrying Ian meant that I was signing on to  things that I don¿t think I ever would’ve chosen for myself,’ says Larissa, who  supports Ian and manages his care. ‘The practical costs felt huge’

‘Though we chose marriage,’ says Larissa, ‘we  chose it sadly. Sorrow has been a permanent resident in our 20s. It feels like  the rest of the world uses these years for really fun things. But in our 20s, we  have watched our future crash with him in that white station wagon and we now  live with two versions of Ian.

‘Weʼve watched all of our friends get married  and have health. Iʼve watched as my girlfriends and sisters found husbands who  could dance with them at their weddings and drive them to church on Sunday  morning.

‘Weʼve watched our dad fight and be taken by  brain cancer, only to see life keep marching on.’

Despite it all, Larissa says it is worth it  to be married to the love of her life.

‘But in light of all the practicals, and  emotionals,’ she writes on desiringgod.org, ‘it was so very simple: we  love each other.’

Larissa admits she's been close to losing her happiness as she struggles with 'our lot'--a struggle she says is a common one--but she manages to keep the faith thanks to her religion

Larissa admits she’s been close to losing her happiness  as she struggles with ‘our lot’ – a struggle she says is a common one – but she  manages to keep the faith thanks to her religion

Still smiling: Alongside Ian, Larissa is still able top enjoy herself at celebrations like weddings and births despite her own personal losses

Still smiling: Alongside Ian, Larissa is still able top  enjoy herself at celebrations like weddings and births despite her own personal  losses

Here, Larissa gleefully holds a baby despite her longing to have one of her own, which may never happen because of her choice to stay with Ian

Here, Larissa gleefully holds a baby despite her longing  to have one of her own, which may never happen because of her choice to stay  with Ian

Inseparable: Despite his need for 24-hour care and inability to communicate as he once could, Ian still manages to have fun with Larissa

Inseparable: Despite his need for 24-hour care and  inability to communicate as he once could, Ian still manages to have fun with  Larissa

Contentment through suffering: 'I didn¿t know contentment in my prosperity,' writes Larissa. She says the trials and tribulations she suffered with Ian have strengthened her faith and spirit

Contentment through suffering: ‘I didn’t  know contentment in my prosperity,’ writes Larissa. She says the trials and  tribulations she suffered with Ian have strengthened her faith and  spirit

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