When it comes to dating, most women have a few insecurities and they tend to worry about very different things than men. Your actions can make a big difference on how secure she’ll feel when she’s with you. Here are 5 things women worry about when it comes to dating or being in a relationship.
1. She thinks you might not call her after a date
The first step to building a woman’s trust is to following through with what you promise her. So if you say you are going to call her on Thursday, call her Thursday. If you say Friday, do it. If that’s not your style, though, or you’d like to keep a little mystery, don’t be definite about when you’ll be calling. It’s better than breaking a promise and at least she won’t be waiting by the phone on a certain day.
2. She thinks you just want to have sex with her
It’s a hard line to walk: If you make a move too soon, she’ll think that’s all you want. If you wait too long, she’ll think you’re just interested in her friendship. So the best way to work this is to just be sincere. If you are genuinely interested in pursuing a relationship with her, let her know. From there, she’ll give you the signals to let you know when she’s ready to get romantic with you.
3. She thinks you’re dating other women
As long as you are honest about it, casually dating more than one woman at the same time is perfectly acceptable– just don’t lie about it. Keep in mind that once you both become intimate or the relationship turns serious, she might assume you are her’s exclusively.
4. She thinks you’re not that interested
At times, even the most confident woman sometimes needs a little reassurance that you’re interested in her and that she still has it. You could let her know how special she is to you by complimenting her or sending her flowers. Find ways to make your woman feel special through a romantic gesture like calling her in the middle of the day for no reason at all. If you both have been in a relationship for a while, you need to work extra hard to reassure her that you still find her attractive. Flirting with other women in front of her can also make her feel insecure. Remember, when you’re with her, devote all your attention to her.
5. She thinks you’re cheating on her
If you haven’t given her a reason to feel that you’re cheating on her and she continues to accuse you of it, discuss the issue with her and let her know that you are committed and have no intention of straying. Believe it or not, lots of women have a lot of performance anxiety in the bedroom. If you’re sex life is going well be sure to let her know it. If not, however, be sure to address the issue in the most sensitive manner possible.
Yes, the world of dating is harsh. But if you genuinely care about her, with a little foresight and sincerity, you can make her feel more secure about your relationship and about herself and boost her ego.
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