Many historical events have lead to the evolution of the female role and Suzy Homemaker is now Ms. Independent. But just because certain “old-fashioned” ways have been phased out, doesn’t mean they should be completely retired.
There was a time when a woman’s greatest duty and achievement was taking care of her man. The women of the 2003 movie Mona Lisa Smile were a great example of what women were essentially breed to do. They went to college, but they didn’t really plan on using their degrees (or even graduating in some cases). The plan was to get married as soon as possible and put those Home Ec skills to good use!
But today’s breed of women is certainly a different one. Many historical events have lead to the evolution of the female role and Suzy Homemaker is now Ms. Independent. But just because certain “old-fashioned” ways have been phased out, doesn’t mean they should be completely retired. You can still have your career and your own mind and what not, but maybe there are a few things that women just don’t do anymore, that they should!
Some women these days don’t cook! Back in the day, every woman had to take home economics. It was mandatory. It pretty much taught you how to be a wife. You learned how to cook, clean, sew, polish silver, host a dinner party, and help your man get a promotion! Nowadays, women only know how to cook if someone took the time to teach them how to cook. But if you’re 20-something (or older) and still don’t know how to cook, you better get started on some Pinterest meals! Start with the easy stuff and work your way up. You at least need to know how to make two or three meals for your man that he will love.
Some people are slobs and some are neat freaks and some are somewhere in between. But a lot of women don’t really know how to “keep house”. A lot of people nowadays didn’t even have chores growing up. But even the ones who did have chores growing up feel like they’re “grown” now and don’t have to do that anymore. Well you do! And while your husband/boyfriend should be able to pick up after himself, as the woman of the house, you should be able to maintain a clean house.
Fix his plate
Women across the country at cookouts and family reunions and holidays can now be heard saying “He can fix his own plate… Ain’t nothin’ wrong with his legs…” (with an eye roll). That is not right ladies! You should honor your man by fixing his plate. You don’t necessarily have to do it every single time he eats (because seriously, there’s nothing wrong with his legs), but at least do it when you are in public as a sign of respect. And no, it’s not demeaning. Have a servant’s heart. Respect and honor him and he should return the favor.
Watch your mouth
Women these days curse way too much! It used to be illegal to curse in public (it technically still may be in some places). And “a lady” didn’t curse. Nowadays, we’re all just calling each other b*****s and h**s like it’s no big deal – like it’s a compliment! And some women curse like a sailor. That is just not attractive. Try to refrain from cursing, especially in certain situations – like maybe church, class, in front of his new boss, etc. Have some class!
Dish out compliments
Women of the 1950s TV sitcoms were quick to compliment their man. But nowadays women just want to soak up all the compliments. But the truth is, it should go both ways. If anything, men should receive way more compliments than women because they are way more sensitive and insecure than they let on. Try to increase the number of compliments you dish out each day. Whatever you’re doing now, it’s probably not enough.
Keep yourself up
Women used to really focus on “keeping themselves up” and always “looking presentable”. Always. At all times. There was no walking out in public with your hair wrapped or in curlers. And there definitely was no being seen in public in sweats (or the 1950s equivalent). Nowadays, women are so comfortable and lax that they’ll just go out looking any kind of way and don’t really invest effort in maintaining their bodies in general. Work out. Eat healthy. Look presentable. Take care of yourself. You are a reflection of your man. Make him look good!
Dress up for dates
Just because you’ve been in a relationship for awhile now doesn’t mean you don’t have to take the time to look nice when you go out together. Date night should be just as exciting as a first date! Women used to put forth just as much effort regardless of if it was a new suitor or her husband of twenty years. Keep doing what you did to get him to keep him! He will definitely notice and appreciate the extra effort.
Anticipate his needs
You should be so in tune with your man that you know what he’s thinking before he thinks it. You should know what he wants and needs before he even asks. Women used to be on point when it came to this one! They would have a cold beer waiting, a cigar, and dinner on the table. She would take his hat and coat before he could even get in the door good! But now, women tend to ignore the signs and just wait on him to ask (and then complain about it!). Don’t do that. Try to anticipate his wants and needs. Be that help meet that he needs. As his woman, you should make him better.
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