Aderonke Adebanjo: Beauty, brains, but no beau

by Aderonke Adebanjo

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To all ladies out there – you got the beauty, the brains, but no beau, IT’S OK. Keep doing you. Take the advice that enriches your life experiences and wait patiently, trusting that at the right time, love will come knocking…

Okay, so let’s pick up from where we left off. We were talking about the poll I had on the blog about why people think they are still single and I wanted to analyze each answer as it applies to the many beautiful, Godly, over-a-certain-age, intelligent, single women out there.

I’m Unapproachable
Believe it or not but yours truly has heard something along these lines from friends before 🙁 Sad face because I consider myself to be VERY friendly. I’m the girl who will strike a conversation with the loner at a party (as long as the loner isn’t creepy. Lol). I enjoy meeting new people. So when people say that I am somewhat unapproachable, needless to say, I am usually a  bit confused. Anyways, so what makes a girl seem unapproachable? Could it be the lack of a welcoming smile? Could it be she’s always with her friends so no alone time for the guy to approach? Could it be she’s not very sociable and so she’s never seen at any events? I really don’t know so men, feel free to tell us what makes a girl unapproachable. Whatever the case, I still believe though that if a guy finds a girl attractive, he will find a way to get around her unapproachable demeanor and approach her! Or would he?

I’m in the Wrong Social Circles
Not sure why I’m brave enough to talk about myself a lot on this post but hey, it’s all good 🙂 My friends tell me that if anyone shouldn’t be single, it’s me. LOL. Why? Because I have a diverse pool of friends! I hang out with a lot of different groups of people. Thanks to my line of work, I meet new people regularly. I’m pretty sociable AND friendly (yes, I’m reiterating that. Lol). So could changing up your social circles be the answer? Well, yes and no. Everyone’s experiences are different so changing up your social circle might get you closer to Mr. Right but it may not. I always say people should expand their social networks regardless for richer life experiences not necessarily just to find a spouse.

I Have No Idea!
This is my favorite answer because in some ways, this is my pick. Like I said at the beginner of the post, if we knew the answer to why we were single and wanted to change our status, we would, right? While we can do things to help the situation and I do believe in playing our part, we can only wait and hope that love finds us sooner than later.

So to all ladies out there – you got the beauty, the brains, but no beau, IT’S OK. Keep doing you. Take the advice that enriches your life experiences and wait patiently, trusting that at the right time, love will come knocking and usually when you least expect it.

I’m still curious to hear your thoughts y’all. Why do you think there are so many beautiful, Godly, intelligent, single women particularly over a certain age these days?

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Aderonke Adebanjo is a radio and television broadcaster, singer, songwriter, poet, lover of LOVE a.k.a hopeful romantic (LOL), daughter of God. She enjoys a good conversation and a great laugh.

 

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Comments (2)

  1. “So many beautiful, Godly, intelligent, single women..”? I’m sorry to say most of us are just not realistic! In an age when women are saying a man must take them or love just as they are! When I was a child I heard older people say ‘a woman with no character claims she isn’t destined for marriage!’
    Three things are evidently lost: character/integrity, ‘home training’, and Godliness.

    1. You have said it ALL

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