by Smitten Kitten
If you’re unmarried and attempting to lose your virginity, make sure it’s not because of peer pressure. Don’t let your friends decide if you’re ready for sex or not.
1. Giving into peer pressure
If you’re unmarried and attempting to lose your virginity, make sure it’s not because of peer pressure. Don’t let your friends decide if you’re ready for sex or not. Many times relationships don’t last and you could end up feeling regret for a long period.
2. Not taking precautions
Having unprotected sex the first time you are sleeping with someone is a big mistake. Especially if you’re not in a serious relationships and avoiding pregnancy. Besides unwanted pregnancy, not using a condom puts you at a risk of getting sexually transmitted diseases. As your relationship progresses and you get to know your partner better, you can choose alternate methods of protection such as birth control pills.
3. Not being prepared
Having sex for the first time is a big deal for most women. So, you have to be well prepared for it. As much as we love impulsive, surprise sex, your first sexual experience shouldn’t be spontaneous or an accident. Put a lot of thought into it and be completely sure that you’re mentally, emotionally and physically prepared for it. Lack of emotional preparation can lead to painful and uncomfortable sex.
4. Going the porn star way
We understand you want to wow him with your moves, but trying porn star antics, the very first time, may not turn out so well. You need practice to become a sex diva. So, keep the kinky toys, role-playing costumes and porn-inspired positions for another time. You don’t want to come across as someone who’s trying too hard to impress. Work out the basic mechanics and go with the flow.
5. Being clueless about his body
Not having any idea about his private parts can put you in an awkward situation. There are several good books on the reproductive system that will educate you properly. Learn all about his body parts, so you don’t look clueless and bewildered.
6. Acting like a shy school girl
You’ve taken the big decision of having sex, so there’s no reason you should not act like a big girl. The morning after the first time you have sex can feel a bit awkward, but you don’t have to act embarrassed or shameful about it. Don’t cover your body from him after you’ve had sex. This will make the situation weird and he may have second thoughts about this.
7. Having high expectations
You may have heard and read how amazing and blissful sex is. And it’s true. But, don’t expect too much from your first time. First sexual encounters are mostly uncomfortable and awkward. They could even hurt. But, don’t let that put you off sex completely. You may not have an orgasm the first time, but don’t be disappointed.
8. Being clingy
Having sex for the first time will bring out a lot of emotions in you. You may even feel clingy. But, it’s important to give your guy space. Don’t become overly needy. If you spent the night at his place, spend some time hanging around with him and then leave. Don’t overstay your welcome. It’s only going to put him off.
9. Not being comfortable about your body
This is the one common mistake most women make. If you’re too conscious about your body, you may not be able to enjoy your first sexual experience. We all have flaws, but you have to be confident. If you love your body, so will he.
10. One night stand
If you’re having sex for the first time, completely avoid a one night stand. Losing your virginity to a stranger is really not a good idea. You want your first time to be special and memorable. So make sure you choose the right person, who you trust and respect completely.
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