by Steve Harold

You will have more success at talking to and pulling women when they are by themselves. This is because when she is around other people such as friends, or work colleagues, she will be conscious of what they may think of her.

1. Throughout the day

You can meet women when they are on their own throughout the day. A few good places to meet them are coffee shops, supermarkets, on public transport, banks etc.

You will have more success at talking to and pulling women when they are by themselves. This is because when she is around other people such as friends, or work colleagues, she will be conscious of what they may think of her.

Also when a woman is with a group of female friends, you tend to get blocked out by them. They will do this by interrupting the conversation, or by pulling her away. Her friend may say something like ‘Come on we need to get going!’

When a woman is by herself she will act differently, compared to if she was with a group of people.

2. Dating online

Most men think dating online is sad and desperate. This is why it is a good opportunity for you as there is less competition. The main advantage of online dating is that it is easier to meet women and skips the introduction stage. You will go straight to the one on one date.

Women that use online dating sites tend to be a bit older, say 25 and over. With the women you get along with online, try to meet with them as quick as you can. Don’t waste time sending emails or private messaging them. When speaking to her on the phone keep it as short as you like.

An intelligent guess would be that she is already attracted to you if she has agreed to meet up. So it should be as simple as meeting up with her and try to get her into bed.

Most websites offer free trials, so take advantage of this before signing up.

Remember you are trying to advertise yourself. So put a load of interesting stuff about yourself and be witty. Don’t put yourself down or anything negative. You should have more than one profile picture. Be daring with action shots and pictures of yourself relaxing.

Make sure you ask to see a picture of her before you meet up. You don’t want to agree to meet up and then it turns out she looks like something out of star wars. Don’t waste your time.

3. Speed dating

This tends to be more popular with women than men, which is why it’s a good opportunity for you. About 15 single men and women take it in turns having a one on one conversation with each other for 5 or so minutes, then move to the next one.

Be playful when giving your answers to questions. You don’t have to tell the full truth.

The advantage of speed dating is that it forces you into a situation where you have to talk to women. The sorts of women you will find at these events are like the ones you will find on dating websites.

4. Weddings

When single women go to weddings, they are hoping to meet a single man. The key is to try to socialize with as many people possible whilst your there and don’t get drunk. An easy topic to talk about is how you know the bride and groom, and go from there.

5. Work

Many relationships begin at the workplace. This is because you are around each other most of the time, under various challenging conditions that need trust. You should only let women approach you though in the work place. If you approach them and they are not interested it could lead you in to trouble, even getting the sack.

6. Nightclubs and Bars

One thing you can say about these places is that you get many fit girls hanging about in one area. However there are a lot of disadvantages that go with it.

One problem is that throughout the night, most women will get approached by drunken men trying to pull them. So straight away they are on their guard. Believe it or not, most women go to nightclubs and bars to have a drink with their friends and dance. Not to look for a man.

Nearly all women will go to a club with a group of friends. So if you do end up chatting to a fit girl, you will be in competition with her friends, trying to pull her away from you. Also be aware of jealous men too. They will try to do the same thing.

If you want to pull women in clubs then do not get drunk or get into fights. Both are a turn off for women. You should dress to impress without going too over the top, and have a friend/s that can talk to her mates whilst you are talking to her. Splitting the girl up from her mates is going to be difficult. They will only let her go if they like and trust you.

So overall the disadvantages of meeting someone in a nightclub, compared to meeting someone elsewhere is far greater. So give the nightclub scene a miss.

7. Pubs

Pubs are usually a completely different place to bars and nightclubs. People are more relaxed and willing to socialize after a hard day’s work.

If you are an older man, pubs are also a good opportunity to meet older women, who are not able to stay up until the early hours of the night dancing away.

Pubs also have happy hours which usually end just before dinner time. So this could be a good opportunity to grab a bite to eat with a woman.

8. House Parties

House parties can be fun and a bit like a nightclub. The good thing here is that compared to nightclubs it is more than likely you will know a lot of people there as you have been invited, and the music isn’t too loud so you will find it easier to make conversation with a woman. Although there are still a lot of distractions at house parties, such as, dancing, friends trying to get her to go on to a nightclub etc. So you should still try to get her away from the house party and take her somewhere quieter and more relaxed.

9. Classes

You should carefully pick classes where there will be a lot of women and very little men. It can be difficult chatting up a class mate without it being obvious that you are doing so. If she can tell that you are attracted to her before she is attracted to you, then you might scare her off.

The best way to go about this is by chatting to her about the subject of the class. Search the internet to try to find out as much as you can about the topic. You will show that you are an expert in the field which will increase your alpha status.

Types of classes you should consider where there will be a lot of women are; foreign languages, art, cooking, dance, yoga etc. The advantage of taking such courses is that you will have plenty to talk about when you meet women, and you will be improving yourself.

10. Social circle

A lot of couples meet through their social circle. They may have been set up on a date or met through mutual friends and got on well. So with this in mind, you should work at increasing your social network of friends, both male and female. Meet up with old friends, hang around with people from work, and make new friends. If you do this you will be introduced to more people in your life.

To build your social network you just need to be friendly and proactive. Being friendly just means focusing yourself on the other person’s enjoyment. Fill them with positive emotions.

If you are lonely it usually comes from depression and a poor mindset. If you are like this no one will want to hang around with you. People want to be your friend if they receive an added benefit. Their benefit is that they enjoy and have fun when they hang out with you.

When you’re with friends, let them talk about what they want to. As an Alpha Male you are not needy and you don’t have to always steer the conversation to talk about yourself.

You need to be proactive. So instead of waiting for people to call you, be the leader and organise your social life.

Other guidelines to take note:

• Don’t change your personality, to suit the type of people you are hanging out with.

• Having friend’s means if you need to leave work early to meet them, do it. If you need to miss gym to meet friends, do it.

• Accept your friends for who they are. You can’t change them.

• If you have lots of friends, choose who you hang out with. Some friends can bring you down.

• If you don’t have many friends then don’t say ‘no’ to any invitations.

• Don’t get annoyed that you are the one always calling your friends to do something. As an Alpha Male you are the leader and the organiser.

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