She still seemed to be stuck in that weird place where intellectually, she knows that she should not re-enter a romantic relationship with Chris Brown but is going through an emotional process that is pulling her in the opposite direction of her logic.
Rihanna is back in the headlines and this time it is not pretty! The Bajan starlet is reported to have been seen out partying, which no one can fault her for. The problem is that she seems to have been overdoing it. Rihanna is reported to have drank too much, threw up and also gotten into a verbal altercation in a night club.
Far be it for us to expect that a 24 year old pop singer is going to be the poster child for model behavior, especially considering everything we have heard about her lately.
I remember watching Rihanna have a heart to heart with Oprah just a few weeks ago and I honestly felt sorry for her. She still seemed to be stuck in that weird place where intellectually, she knows that she should not re-enter a romantic relationship with Chris Brown but is going through an emotional process that is pulling her in the opposite direction of her logic.
What I can say I admire about Rihanna is that when she spoke to Oprah, she was open and honest; no double talk. That being said, the interview left me really concerned that she would ultimately end up right back in the arms of her former boyfriend, Chris brown, before both of them had taken enough time to heal the damage from their last attempt at being in a relationship. Whether she should or shouldn’t is obviously between her and Chris Brown, but based on what I see publicized about him and what I know about the cycle of abuse, I say it is not a good idea.
Just a few weeks ago, Rihanna was in the headlines because she had allegedly gotten into a scuffle in London. Now, let’s bear in mind that Rihanna is a 24 year old who has spent the last seven years in the lime light, instead of doing whatever normal 16 to 24 year olds do nowadays. The idea here is not to start wagging fingers in her face and telling her what a bad “role model” she is. The truth is most of these celebrities that we so loosely call role models never asked for that title.
Ultimately, unfortunately, Rihanna’s behavior is not that shocking. She is still at the age where most people would either be in college or would have recently left college. What I know about a lot of college age young men and women is that they party and go to clubs…a lot! They drink a lot of alcohol and it tends to make them throw up. At the end of the day, Rihanna’s problem isn’t really that she has problems picking the right guy-who among us, in out twenties, didn’t drag a cat home and expect it to bark? I also don’t think Rihanna’s problem is drinking. Again, many people her age are out partying and getting overly drunk. From where I stand, it looks like Rihanna mainly has a publicity problem. Everything that she does is done in the public eye and is then subject to scrutiny.
If Rihanna values her career, then I reckon it would be a good idea to clean up her act and stop behaving badly, especially in public. If she wants to preserve herself, I reckon she needs to stay away from Chris Brown. Maybe one day they will make a great couple but there is nothing, right now, that indicates that either one of them has gone though the personal development process that would even allow that to be a possibility. As for the rest of us, it might be a good idea for us to just ignore her for a while.
Nomalanga Mhlauli-Moses helps Black Women thrive in their lives and careers. She is a Social Commentator, an Editor at Your Black World , Assistant Professor of Professional Studies and the reigning Mrs Botswana.
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