11 ways to make your second date a success

by Angkush Bahuguna




It’s just the second time you’re meeting. Just because you kissed her on the first date doesn’t mean you’re supposed to kiss on the second date too. She may or may not feel like kissing you. Maintain your distance and treat her with respect.


The first date went great, eh? But that doesn’t mean the work is done – not until you begin dating. One wrong move and things can go haywire, anytime. The second date is as crucial as the first one, maybe even more. While the first date may have been great, you must know that getting through the second one without any goof-ups is an even more important step towards impressing her. You may have already heard a lot about the dos and don’ts of a first date. As you gear up for the next one, we bring to you 11 second date tips to make sure there is a third one.

1. Take Her To A New Place

If you’ve already been to a restaurant with her the last time, try out something new. The second date should never feel like déjà vu. Keep the setting contrastingly different, so she can see a totally different side of you. If the weather is pleasant, take her out in the open. If you take her for a film, make sure it is a genre she watches. Never force your choice upon her.

2. Pick Her Up

You may have met her directly at the restaurant the last time. But since this is the second time you’re meeting her, it is a good opportunity to personalize your date a bit more. Pick her up from home or meet her somewhere halfway. She shouldn’t feel like she is going on a blind date. Go together. This will allow you to spend some more time getting comfortable with each other.

3. Have A Part Two Already Planned

Surprise her with a second part of the date. Once you’ve watched the latest rom-com at the theatre, take her someplace else where you can spend a lot more time just talking. It could be your favourite café or her favourite place in the city that she may have mentioned in passing in the last date. Catch her by surprise and watch her get butterflies in the stomach. There is nothing like a pleasant surprise on a second date.

4. Touch Her Gently

If you see things going fine, you may try touching her flirtatiously. But be cautious towards her reactions. If she is game for it, try building a connection by touching her (appropriately). However, if she feels uncomfortable, back off the same second. Under no circumstances should you force yourself upon her.

5. Get Her A Gift

Is it a second date mandate? No. Is it necessary? No. Will she like it? Hell, yes! Buy something she’d like. It could be anything – from a chocolate to a perfume. It’s the gesture that counts. In fact, the more personal the gift is, the more she will want you. Build up a curiosity. Let her guess what it is. Unwrap it only at the end of the date.

6. Talk About Her

You must know when to stop talking about yourself. In fact, your second date should be focused on her. Make her feel important. Show interest in her. Ask her how her day went, and what are the latest happenings in her life. When she speaks, listen patiently.

7. Avoid Getting Too Sticky

Don’t ask too many personal questions. It is too soon to get to know everything about her. She shouldn’t feel like you’re intrusive. Ask general questions about family, work and life. Avoid sensitive topics that she may not be comfortable discussing with you yet.

8. Mention The First Date

This shows her that you’ve been thinking about the first date too. Ask her what she liked the most about your first date. Joke about how nervous you were that day. Help her open up to you and love you for your flaws. You could even ask her what she thought of you the first time you met. These topics always make for funny, interesting conversations.

9. Don’t Expect Too Much

It’s just the second time you’re meeting. Just because you kissed her on the first date doesn’t mean you’re supposed to kiss on the second date too. She may or may not feel like kissing you. Maintain your distance and treat her with respect.

10. Avoid Talking Of Exes

Ex-boyfriends and ex-girlfriends can be conversation killers. She probably neither wants to discuss her previous relationships nor does she want you to explain how many partners you’ve had till now. Take it slow. Don’t ruin the date because of past experiences that are not too fond to remember.

11. Say Something Nice

Ideally a second date should end in such a way that she cannot wait for the next one. Tell her you’re beginning to like her even more and see her blush. Ask her how she feels and end the date on an honest and heart-warming note. You want her to think of you the whole night, don’t you? Once the date is over, send her a message telling her how great the date was!


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