by Ankush Bahuguna
There’s a reason why a conversation takes place between two people. Make the woman feel important. Talk about her. You have no clue how much women love the limelight. She will always enjoy talking to a man who is interested in listening to her.
Now, we all know how good most women are with words and how challenged men are in comparison. While there do exist some good conversationalists amongst men, a lot of them still need a lot of tutoring. Which category do you fall under? A bad conversation could really prove to be a deal breaker for most women. Here are 7 mistakes you could be committing while talking to women.
You’re Not A Good Listener
Listen. Don’t just pretend to. Believe us, it is a child’s play to tell a good listener from a bad one. Conversations cannot be one-sided. Get involved and take it one step further. Ask interesting questions and try to understand her point of view. She will know if all you’re doing is nodding and waiting for your turn to speak.
A woman opening up about her life is a very fragile moment. One wrong question asked, and you can send her back inside her shell forever. Do not ask too many questions that border onto being inappropriate. Don’t make her feel like she is being interrogated.
You’re Not Speaking Clearly
Either you’re so nervous around women, you do not realize that you’re only audible to yourself, or you’re too excited to speak. When talking to women, you must be emotive, loud and clear. Slow down the pace if you tend to talk too fast.
You Hog The Conversation
Do you often steer the conversation towards something of your own interest? There’s a reason why a conversation takes place between two people. Make the woman feel important. Talk about her. You have no clue how much women love the limelight. She will always enjoy talking to a man who is interested in listening to her.
There’s a place for debates and a party is definitely not one. Remember that you do not always have to be right. Even if you disagree, do not turn the conversation into a never-ending argument. Do not ruin the mood of the conversation by constant comebacks and arguments.
You Avoid Eye Contact
We understand you may be nervous around the woman you fancy. But you must know how to keep it under check, for low self-confidence is the biggest turn off in a man. It will either make her feel that you don’t consider her your equal or you’re too scared to look her in the eye. Maintain eye contact and smile at her.
You Curse A Lot
Hanging out with your guy friends can make using too many swear words your habit, but you better watch your words when making small talk with a woman you’re eying. You don’t want your first conversation to be the last one, do you? Keep the four letter word at bay.
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