Favour Nosakhare: Catching the bouquet (30 Days, 30 Voices)

by Favour Nosakhare

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”My friends and I had screamed ‘’BETRAYAL! Men are liars!’’ but the fact is, what if my friend wasn’t so cut up with the illusion of a perfect wedding and a perfect man?”

You know what they say about catching the bouquet?  You will be the next to say ‘’ I do”. Well, Kate caught the bouquet when we went for a wedding, and that marked the beginning of never ending wedding plans that her friends, including me, had to put up with.

Her wedding dress must be from Vera Wang, the ring has to be a diamond bearing her birthstone, he must be incurably romantic, go after her with the right trappings in place, extremely financially secure … blah blah blah. Sometimes we wondered where she got all her criteria from. She was determined to walk the aisle before any of us, and she did, but not with a dress from Vera Wang.

She met this charmer at the mall. Yes, he was handsome, generous with gifts and cash, the owner of a posh car, maybe comfortable financially and of course, very good with words. My friend didn’t get married until she had her second child outside wedlock, and alas the ‘Mr Perfect’ already had three baby mamas.  She was the lucky one to wear the ring (certainly not diamond).

My friends and I had screamed ‘’BETRAYAL! Men are liars!’’ but the fact is, what if my friend wasn’t so cut up with the illusion of a perfect wedding and a perfect man? What if she would have been patient and wasn’t focused on the money and ‘romance’? What if she had let go of her idealistic fantasies?

In my opinion, I think reality begins where romance novels end. Patience is indeed a virtue.

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Favour Nosakhare is a final year student of Pharmacy. She loves chocolate and laughter. She tweets from @dahliadona

30 Days, 30 Voices series is an opportunity for young Nigerians from across the world to share their stories and experiences – creating a meeting point where our common humanity is explored.

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One comment

  1. It’s good 2 dream but it’s better 2 have limits in everything n know d reality of life

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