She assumes that your attracted to everything in a skirt and attempt to limit your exposure to them because she is so afraid is she of losing you.
So you’ve had a relationship for a long time with your girlfriend and you love her very much, but there’s a problem: she is a very jealous woman. A little jealousy is healthy and shows she cares enough about you to feel a little threatened by an attractive woman.
However, too much jealousy can drive a wedge between the two of you and destroy your relationship. So when does jealousy turn into an attempt to completely control you? Here’s some warning signs.
1. She always keeps tabs on you
She calls you many times a day to see where you are and wants to know who you’re with and what you’re doing. She checks your cell phone bill and call history for any suspicious numbers. She also regularly scans your online search history, checking to see who you’ve been talking with or searching for potential porn. She constantly goes through through your belongings when you’re not around to include your dirty laundry, searching for telephone numbers, women’s lipstick, etc.
2. She gets angry when you look at other women
She assumes that your attracted to everything in a skirt and attempt to limit your exposure to them because she is so afraid is she of losing you. Even when you assure her that you’re only interested in her, she overreacts. Most women get more jealous of the women they look at than the ones you do.
3. She doesn’t like your single friends
Everyone you know is a potential threat to her influence. Because she fears that they can entice you away from her, you come home and are forced to recount every second of your night, who you talked to, and how you could have even imagined going out with the guys. She may even start showing up when you do go out with friends, playing it off as a coincidence when she planned it all along. And now that she’s there, you two might as well spend the evening together. Better yet, why don’t you two just go home right now? Then she might even suggest that you don’t have any friends at all!
4. She constantly accuses you of cheating on her.
In her mind, you’re guilty until proven innocent. Even if you prove beyond a reasonable doubt that you’re faithful, she refuses to listen to reason. She may apologize for her suspicions, but expect it to start again very soon.
5. She makes scenes in public
She displays her jealous behavior and makes accusations anytime and anyplace, whether in front of your family, friends, co-workers or out in public. She may even go as far as resorting to violence, slapping you, kicking you under the table, or pinching you every time you do something wrong in her eyes–behaviors which intimidate you to the point you feel that you have to lie all the time to keep her calm.
If your girlfriend displays these signs, she is a control freak. Being overly jealous and insisting that you’re cheating might stem from her own thoughts of cheating. No man should put up with this kind of grief. If your girlfriend exhibits these signs, you may be dealing with a potentially psychotic woman, and it’s time for some serious intervention.
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