#NHBi – Dear Sugabelly, NOTHING noble in having sex with many people

by Mayowa Ogundele

So last Wednesday night, Twitter (Lagos) went berserk after a female tweep (@Sugabelly) disclosed during #NHBi, that she had slept with a total of 13 men. Apparently, that’s what a ‘body count’ is.

As expected, (because sex is always an interesting topic), all hell was let loose with different opinions filling my timeline.

While many condemned the lady in question for being flippant about her sexcapades, others brought out shields to protect her.

At first, I thought to ignore the conversation but naaah…. I can’t.

Media platforms are places where opinions are formed and reformed. All sides must be represented.

PS- I think this post will have a part 2, so it doesn’t come out too long.

Moving on….

Many people may have their reasons for indulging in pre-marital or extramarital sex but… there are only two sides to a coin.

What is praiseworthy about having many people know you in the most intimate way possible? My answer remains the same, nothing.



Head or Tail!


Same way, you have good or bad. Right or wrong. These concepts are not gender based, or they shouldn’t be.

As I thought of the best way to present my opinion this morning, a part of the Bible came to mind.

Philippians 4: 8

“… You’ll do best by filling your minds and.meditating on things true, noble, authentic, compelling, gracious – the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse…”.

Although, this is found in the Holy Book for Christians, I seriously doubt that any religion, race, tribe, moral compass would discredit it.

So, what is noble about sleeping with more (wo)men than you can remember? Nothing.


What is praiseworthy about having many people know you in the most intimate way possible? My answer remains the same, nothing.

As far as I know, no man or woman, past or present, was ever honoured or celebrated for the number of partners they had.

Of all the world’s celebrated individuals, those who got caught in sexual immortality were disgraced… by those who didn’t. Interesting, isn’t it?

I have a lot more to say… because I know some will ask about marriages which collapsed because the sex wasn’t great. Or, ……. bla bla bla.


To be continued


Mayowa Ogundele is a journalist and a news presenter at Channels Television, She blogs at ohluwamayowa.wordpress.com and tweets from @Ohluwamayowa

Op-ed pieces and contributions are the opinions of the writers only and do not represent the opinions of Y!/YNaija.

Comments (6)

  1. Despicable world full of people who not only permit sin but glorify those who do! @Freedom The writer of the article has not condemned Sugabelly per se but has pointed out what she did wrong. &she’s morally obliged to do so,like it or not. Sleeping with ‘so many men’ is nothing to be proud of,that is if you can’t even be ashamed of it. Sex is not a gift,a reward,a worm you dangle to get fish. I know people,among them female friends (perhaps by virtue of my role as a doctor,&I don’t abuse it) who tell me having-slept-with-several-men-previously still haunts their sensibilities today&their ability to manage a relationship as serious as marriage,for instance. So,don’t be too quick to judge the ‘Judge’!

  2. Oh! Please shut up! Madam Judge and Jury.
    If I recall, there was a male point of view to NBHi’s ‘body count’ episode, why didn’t you run an article on that?! lazy wannabe journalist trying to score cheap points.

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