by Mercy Emmanuel
No! There is a psychological power that engulfs one when someone in authority asks them to do something outside their will. This has nothing to do with the water spirits. This is old emotional and psychological blackmail. He leveraged his position as her Pastor to make her succumb to his disgusting and unholy desires.
My attention was brought to the Ese Walter and Pastor Biodun of COZA story during the weekend, while I was skimming through my Twitter timeline looking for someone to “K”.
Somebody posted a tweet that said, “I’m going to church this Sunday, finally”, his tweet was quoted by another who added, “It better not be COZA darling”, and the third person said, “let dem part your legs like the red sea”.
That was it for me! My quest for “K”ing on twitter was over, I had to get to the bottom of the this juicy story.
Needless to say, I did. I got the story and the reactions to the story. I must say, I was very surprised about the reactions more than I was the story.
The uncut and unholy romance between the shepherd and one of the sheep, is no longer news to us. We have seen and heard of them, ranging from the ones that believe they have Holy Semen, which needs to be spread to cleanse the world, to the ones who blame the devil for pushing them into it, as though the vagina was a pit… well, technically. We have heard it all.
Surprisingly, even though Ese Walter was the one who came out with her story as a way of bearing out her burden and her guilt, she is still the one at the butt of all the jokes!
Amazing isn’t it?
Ese Walter has been labeled and with cheesy tags ranging from a “hunger whore” to an “agent of darkness from the marine world” (I had to laugh at this point). Pause.
Release your mind from all bias, and let’s look at this story logically.
As a young Christian looking for the word to fill her up, not a pastor’s hand, She went to this church. She remained a faithful Sunday goer for good 11 months. Her love for the Lord probably grew and her face became too regular in the church that the Senior Pastor, Pastor Biodun, noticed her. He asked her to join a workforce and use her talent for the Lord,(that’s how they usually coin it), and he suggested the Pastoral Care Unit. Very apt name for the Unit, don’t you think?
After a year of serving the Lord, who was the only being she was serving at this time, she was on her way to London for a Masters program that would last for two years. As a good church member following church policy, she informed her pastor of the trip and the pastor in turn, following a particular manual of shepherding, asked her to make sure she sent him her email and her number so that he could follow her up in faith.
This, she made sure he had, how dare she deny her Pastor the right to her whereabouts?
Pause. If you haven’t enjoyed the story so far, its time to stick to the post, because the plot thickens right about now.
Pastor Biodun comes in London, and because he has access to Ese’s number which she willfully gave him, he calls her to come and see him, not at the church, not at the reception of the hotel, not at the park or a restaurant, in his hotel room.
Here a series of important events begin to take place:
1. He asks her to order for a drink, and he wouldn’t mind if she ordered for alcohol.
2. He takes her to the pent house suite, he had reserved.
3. He asks her to sit on his laps.
4. He asks her to kiss him.
5. The ‘ghen ghen’ occurred.
(This was the beginning of several escapades).
At this point, cogent questions begin to rise: why did she go to his room? Why didn’t she shun him and walk out? Did he rape her? Why was she a fool? Why did she consent? Did he ‘jazz’ her?
He didn’t rape her; he didn’t ‘jazz’ her; she went to his room, yes; she consented; yes; but does this make her a whore? No!
There is a psychological power that engulfs one when someone in authority asks them to do something outside their will. This has nothing to do with the water spirits. This is old emotional and psychological blackmail. He leveraged his position as her Pastor to make her succumb to his disgusting and unholy desires. She is not a child, she is a bonafide adult, but this has nothing to do with it. This is a form of abuse!
Many women and young girls are caught and kept in this kind of web, in their churches, homes, places of work, school etc.
This phenomenon is almost the same as the Stockholm Syndrome, if you don’t know what that means, read it up.
He didn’t rape her physically, he raped her mentally. He forcefully used his position as her spiritual head to get what he wanted from her, as their sin lasted.
Ese Walter is not a whore, neither is she an agent of darkness, like most of you are inclined to believe. She is a survivor who was found a way to break free from her captor’s grip by speaking the truth for the whole world to hear.
I am almost certain, that there are very many women who are preys in the hands of the mighty Pastors, doing their biddings and satisfying their lust, and are too afraid or mentally screwed over to speak out.
Did she reveal this truth in a hungry quest for fame? I would like to believe that she did this solely because, the biblical principle has it that “The Truth shall set you free”.
Ese Walter is a brave woman. Is she the Viper? I stand here, in full control of my mental faculties, to tell you that she is most definitely not.
Mercy Emmanuel tweets from @Mercysuga_Rush
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