Category: Counter Culture Blog

EditorMay 2, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: The Handmaid’s tale feels like watching an alternative future of Nigeria

It is quite unlike me to shill for a television series, especially when it is not one that is Nigerian ...

EditorMay 1, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: Why do you call women ‘females’?

Well, why? It seems a fairly ordinary question, especially since it’s something a lot of grown men (and some women) ...

EditorApril 28, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: ‘If’ is just the latest in Davido’s long line of songs that celebrate materialistic relationships

Nigerian jollof is all about sex and/or wealth. Women offering or withholding sex, men describing sexual acts or talking about ...

EditorApril 27, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog] For your viewing pleasure: Hell Or High Water

Early 2016, the short film Hell Or High Water made in association with Nigerian LGBT rights group TIERS Nigeria broke ...

EditorApril 26, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: Yvonne Orji makes a strong case for abstinence

You should know Yvonne Orji by now, Nigerian born American actress who came into fame for her role as Molly, ...

EditorApril 25, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: ‘Stealthing’? Are you people kidding me?

The discussion around sexual health and sexuality is expanding. And as it expands, especially pertaining to sexual assault, rape and ...

EditorApril 24, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: Teach your sons to learn to deal with rejection, our very lives depend on it

In the last 10 days, two American men have killed a total of 18 people in cold blood. Their reasons/justification ...

EditorApril 20, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: Tunde Ednut needs to STFU about TBoss – and anything else – for a very, very long time

Here’s where we are. A woman was sexually harassed while she slept. On international television. We saw it. The videos ...

EditorApril 17, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: Even in celibacy, sex still defines us

Over the long weekend, I reconnected with friends and caught up on their lives, especially their emotional and romantic lives. ...

EditorApril 13, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: Do Nigerian priests have any support system to help make sense of celibacy?

The most fascinating thing about Christianity when you exclude its dogma and the often illogical fervor of its fundamentalists is ...

EditorApril 13, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: We want rights for women but we stay putting people like Reuben Abati in power

I’ve been looking askance at this opinion editorial fluff piece that former Presidential spokesman and editor of Guardian Nigeria Reuben ...

EditorApril 12, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: The dilemma that is monogamous marriage for a millennial

Christianity and the western cultures it influences have foisted monogamy on us as the only acceptable way to entertain intimacy. ...

EditorApril 11, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: Lagos has a Domestic and Sexual Violence Response Team, and you should use it

Over the weekend, a girl I know had her mobile devices, laptop and tablet seized by her mother. I have ...

EditorApril 9, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: Who would have thought #BBNaija’s women would ask all the right questions?

So BBNaija 2017 is ending. For the last 90 days we’ve watched 14 Nigerians picked ‘arbitrarily’ to representation of the ...

EditorApril 8, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: As predicted, the Global Gag Rule has started rolling out

A few months ago, as one of his first official executive actions as President of the United States, Donald Trump ...

EditorApril 6, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: Maternal mortality is still a thing, folks

“Modupe Oyekunle.” That name might mean nothing to you, but it should. Yesterday she died, after successfully delivering a daughter, ...

EditorApril 5, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: No one tells you of the violence that happens when women are trafficked for prostitution

American journalist Ben Taub’s most recent article is the kind of journalism Nigeria so desperately needs. Consumed as we are ...

EditorApril 4, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: Tell us everything or tell us nothing at all

The 21yr old son of a Senator from Taraba state raped a 7year old girl anally. He destroyed her internal ...

EditorMarch 31, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: Will ‘When We Speak Of Nothing’ be a worthy heir to Jude Dibia’s ‘Walking With Shadows’?

The Nigerian literary industry is clearly bereft of stories about queerness and homosexuality. That absence can be laid firmly at ...

EditorMarch 30, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: Cynthia Morgan (and Nigerians) need to learn to shut up and mind their business

Cynthia Morgan, talented reggae rapper with a penchant for borrowed accents (at our last count she had four though she ...

EditorMarch 29, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: One of your literary faves just outed himself as a raging misogynist

It really is weird that this month has really proved unequivocally that as a whole, the literary community needs to ...

EditorMarch 29, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: So Beauty and the Beast has gay characters and Nigerians are pissed

Nigerians never disappoint, honestly truly. If I could trade Nigerians on the stock market and make money off predicting their ...

EditorMarch 28, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog] We keep swiping: the millennial problem

Nigerians have always been promiscuous. And while the millennial generation of Nigerians will argue that we are having more sex ...

EditorMarch 27, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog] From Tonto Dikeh to Muma Gee | Marriage is still a death trap for women, stay woke

Tiwa Savage, Tonto Dikeh, Toke Makinwa, Muma Gee and now Atoke Utomi, just five women in celebrity marriages who have ...

EditorMarch 26, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: Gay men are playing The Respectability Olympics, and everyone is losing

Someone once said, many of the problems gay men around the world face would vanish if all gay men would ...

EditorMarch 25, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: What ‘Newsies’ taught me about American pro-choice activism

America has an interesting way of preserving even the most infinitesimal parts of its history; through the work of playwrights ...

EditorMarch 24, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: Turns out the #NotAllMen brigade doesn’t really care about men after all

Today on Twitter (as it often happens) a person was outed as a sexual predator. This isnt the first time ...

EditorMarch 23, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: How do we solve a problem like Kiss Daniel?

Nigerian entertainment has a publicist problem. It really isn’t too much to expect that when a ‘celebrity’ attains a certain ...

EditorMarch 22, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: The worst thing you can be in Nigeria is poor and female

By now the news must have trickled everywhere. In spite of a court order forcing the Lagos state government from ...

EditorMarch 21, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog] Back to Basics: Is solicitiation sexual harassment?

One of the unexpected consequences of access to social media is encountering scenarios and alien to one’s lived experiences and ...

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