Category: Counter Culture Blog

EditorJune 6, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog]: Free Self Defense classes for women and children for five years? Sign me up

On Friday via Twitter, the Executive Director of the Nigerian non-profit, Stand To End Rape announced that it had signed ...

EditorJune 5, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog]: Is it homophobia if my religion doesn’t permit me to support gay marriage? – a rejoinder

So there was this article on TheNakedConvos (which after that disastrous episode with the adaptation of their web series Our ...

EditorJune 2, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog]: Yul Edochie, Skuki, Leslie Okoye; all of you, please stop talking

Nigerian celebrities seem determined to expose just how back, unintelligent and misogynist they truly are this month. So much so, ...

EditorJune 1, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog]: Child marriage is not a ‘Muslim’ problem, Nigerians, it is all our problem

Nigeria was in the news in 2015 thanks to the revival of the hashtag #ChildNotBride in revolt to the new ...

EditorMay 31, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog]: Is Charly Boy a Nigerian Queer icon or is he just profiting off the otherness of queer people?

Charles Oputa, otherwise known as Charly Boy is known just as much for his music as he is for his ...

EditorMay 28, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog]: Older Nigerian women are finally speaking up on sexual abuse

Nigeria has a code of silence. Heavily influenced by Nigeria’s strong familial society, we are encouraged from a very young ...

EditorMay 27, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog]: Here’s something we never thought we’d see in our lifetimes

At the ongoing 2017 NATO summit, spouses of the coalition’s leaders assembled for events organised in their honour. But this ...

EditorMay 26, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog]: It’s time we started telling young women to demand orgasms when they have sex

We don’t talk enough about sex as Nigerians. Sure we sneak in a couple of pages of erotica every other ...

EditorMay 25, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog]: Asoebi Bella proves marriage articles will always work when everything else fails

You probably haven’t heard, but a few days ago, BellaNaija, Nigeria’s most respected entertainment media house announced they were diversifying. ...

EditorMay 24, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog]: Best news we’ve seen all day

This isn’t going to be on those winding, slightly judgy posts we tend to give you on the Sexuality Blog. ...

EditorMay 23, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog]: Sexperts are the new internet craze, but you should exercise some caution

As far as social media visibility goes, OAP and Youtube Vlogger, Uwanma has better branding than most. Her signature is ...

EditorMay 22, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog]: Cassper Nyovest is putting his money where his mouth is, and standing with women

Women have been vocal for decades about how the system needs to change. They have challenged legislation, physically protested, mourned ...

EditorMay 20, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog]: First it was women on #OBFW, now it’s effeminate gay men on Inspector K, RED TV, what are you doing?

The final episode of RED TV’s Inspector K just dropped yesterday. For those who don’t know, RED TV is sort ...

EditorMay 19, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog]: There have always been queer Nigerians, get over it

We say it here all the time on the sexuality blog in response to the hateful and very inaccurate statement ...

EditorMay 19, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog]: Kenya’s first MSM health community clinic is hope for all LGBT Africans

There’s nothing quite like a glimmer of hope in all the dreariness that accompanies LGBT life in Africa. It’s not ...

EditorMay 13, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog]: If you dont believe women when they tell you #MenAreScum, then you should ask gay men

Oh yeah, we forgot. You would never ask a gay man their opinion on anything because as one man on ...

EditorMay 9, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog]: TY Bello’s King Women interview was brave, but terribly handled

There are only two times to publicly report sexual assault as a victim, immediately it happens, and if you cannot, ...

EditorMay 7, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog]: Believe it or not, people like Joro serve a purpose

Agony Aunt. Joro Olumofin. Two words you wouldnt expect to see side by side; and as much as it probably ...

EditorMay 6, 2017

TY Bello’s King Woman reaffirms that sexual abuse is more common than we think

TY Bello seems like the last person in the world who underwent sexual abuse as a child. She is so ...

EditorMay 2, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: The Handmaid’s tale feels like watching an alternative future of Nigeria

It is quite unlike me to shill for a television series, especially when it is not one that is Nigerian ...

EditorMay 1, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: Why do you call women ‘females’?

Well, why? It seems a fairly ordinary question, especially since it’s something a lot of grown men (and some women) ...

EditorApril 28, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: ‘If’ is just the latest in Davido’s long line of songs that celebrate materialistic relationships

Nigerian jollof is all about sex and/or wealth. Women offering or withholding sex, men describing sexual acts or talking about ...

EditorApril 27, 2017

[The Sexuality Blog] For your viewing pleasure: Hell Or High Water

Early 2016, the short film Hell Or High Water made in association with Nigerian LGBT rights group TIERS Nigeria broke ...

EditorApril 26, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: Yvonne Orji makes a strong case for abstinence

You should know Yvonne Orji by now, Nigerian born American actress who came into fame for her role as Molly, ...

EditorApril 25, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: ‘Stealthing’? Are you people kidding me?

The discussion around sexual health and sexuality is expanding. And as it expands, especially pertaining to sexual assault, rape and ...

EditorApril 24, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: Teach your sons to learn to deal with rejection, our very lives depend on it

In the last 10 days, two American men have killed a total of 18 people in cold blood. Their reasons/justification ...

EditorApril 20, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: Tunde Ednut needs to STFU about TBoss – and anything else – for a very, very long time

Here’s where we are. A woman was sexually harassed while she slept. On international television. We saw it. The videos ...

EditorApril 17, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: Even in celibacy, sex still defines us

Over the long weekend, I reconnected with friends and caught up on their lives, especially their emotional and romantic lives. ...

EditorApril 13, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: Do Nigerian priests have any support system to help make sense of celibacy?

The most fascinating thing about Christianity when you exclude its dogma and the often illogical fervor of its fundamentalists is ...

EditorApril 13, 2017

The Sexuality Blog: We want rights for women but we stay putting people like Reuben Abati in power

I’ve been looking askance at this opinion editorial fluff piece that former Presidential spokesman and editor of Guardian Nigeria Reuben ...

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