by The Ree Guide

 

If you find yourself defending reasons why you’re with your man, he’s probably not the one for you.

Relationships can be very draining, especially if you’re in a relationship with the wrong person. A number of women hope to find a man that will not only be a great husband, but also be a great father and/or community leader as well.

During the pursuit, women can sometimes convince themselves that a bad man is actually a good-man-in-training. While that may be true, it does not mean he’s a good-man-in-training for you. In fact, one must come to a point in their relationship when they can acknowledge the possibility that they are preparing their lover to be an extraordinary person for someone else. And who knows? Somewhere around the world, another person is preparing a broken man to become the best man for you. Below are five ways to know he’s not the one:

1. You feel compelled to “explain” him to people. If you find yourself defending reasons why you’re with your man, he’s probably not the one for you. Most women instinctually know when something isn’t right in their relationship. Follow your gut instead of your emotions, and stop making excuses for your choice to waste time on a man that isn’t for you.
2. You feel lonely within the relationship. One of the worst feelings to experience in a relationship is to feel as if you only coexist with your companion and the relationship. You find yourself putting on airs to keep people from gossiping, although by that time it’s too late. You also exaggerate the extent of the positive interactions you and your mate have.
3. You have doubts. As mentioned previously, a woman’s intuition is powerful. If you find yourself with more questions than answers, communication is lacking in the relationship. Get your questions answered and if he refuses or you still find yourself not understanding the relationship, he’s not the one for you.
4. You feel used. If you find yourself drained because there’s no reciprocity in your relationship, you may need to realize that you’re being used.
5. You have more negative experiences than positive. If your relationship has more “downtime” than uptime throughout its existence, it’s time to leave. Life is too short and death is too permanent. Don’t ruin the positive experiences in life because you’re choosing to share negative experiences with the wrong man.

The listed points are to be reviewed in combination and consistency, not in one isolate incident and/or one to two relatable points. You are always encouraged to have open dialogue with your lover before choosing to end the relationship. If you find that having a conversation does not work, he is not interested in keeping the relationship and you need to move on.

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